What did I ever do to have men OBJECTIFY ME?

Question

I am smart, funny and nice but they see past that. They all want to you know what with me. That's all. I don't present myself that way at all. I dress very professinally and modestly. What is the deal seriously?

Answer 1

Just be yourself, why do you even bother worrying about other people and what they want with you. Live life for yourself and live it well. You don't need to worry about what people want or think, just worry about what you want and what you think.

Answer 2

I was in you shoes a couple of weeks ago. I am smart and funny also, yet i have a body like a coke bottle and am very innocent at times. If you present yourself innocently and have a shaply figure, then the bad men will see that. And if your relationship life has been very disappointing (alot of crushes that did not like you), and they know that, then they will have a field day trying to be the first guy at that honey pot. I would say to really study the men that you attract and develop a list of the things that you want in a guy. Hope this helps !

P.S. The guy i liked did not get to my honey pot, but he was my first kiss :( I got away just in time. And when they are nice to you and act like such sweet gentlemen, it is an act. you can be nice back but just watch men, they want something else.

Answer 3

Where are you meeting these men? If you're meeting them in bars, I believe there is a higher ratio of men looking for instant you-know-what than there is in the general population.

Second, men are programmed to look for you-know-what. This is why the species has continued.

Try joining book clubs and other forums where the focus is intellectual. If you qualify for American Mensa (top 2% in intelligence of general population; if you got 1350 on your SAT before 1978 or 1250 after 1978 [the test was re-normed], then you qualify without taking the test), you could try meeting people through this avenue, many of whom are men. Not quite as one-on-one, not quite as much emotional risk involved (unless you actually do meet someone, but at least you know something intellectual about him by the time you start dating).

Answer 4

Didn't you just ask a question about why people don't like you as much now as two years ago or something? Get a clue. The deal seriously is that guys like sex. Also many women like sex. The men who's attention you just bemoaned losing are probably interested in hanging out with those girls. Guys actually do like the other stuff too, but what do you think this is, a monastery?

Answer 5

I guess you're asking why all men want to do is have sex with you and nothing else. Personally I don't see it as a bad thing. Just remember in 20 years from now you aren't going to look as good as you do now. So enjoy it now cause gravity takes its toll, then all the guys your age will be chasing younger girls

Answer 6

ur prolly hot. if thats ur problem i know a way u can cure that. gain about 150 lbs. i guarentee no guy will bother u then. other than that men are preety basic beings that focus on sex all day. sry

Answer 7

A proffesional woman in a suit is very very very hot.
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Answer 8

well you must have jiggled your fanny when you walked past, blown kisses and called them big boy when flirting with them. Even if your refering to how built they are, you know they all think your talking about something else

Answer 9

Age old question. Surely youve read it before.

Answer 10

Guys objectify everything. Don't take it personally, because they don't.