I had a guy get me introuble for stalking him but i wasnt! So now i cant talk to guys and i really like this guy but im scared of getting in trouble please help. Hes popular and im not too popular. Hes a sweet guy but compared to him im like dirt! Please help me i want to talk to him! I want to be his friend! But im too scared
2007-02-18 14:57:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know the feeling. It's bad to feel so little when the one thing you need most to get you out of this sticky situation is confidence.
You've got to understand, though, that it's actually up to you what he sees you as. You can choose to be dirt and unworthy of his attention or you can be special and worthy of his attention. It's all in the mind, hun. You can't sell what you don't believe in.
From the way it looks you seem to have more faith in him than in yourself. You don't even know him properly yet you perceive him as being sweet. Have more faith in yourself, hun. Be brave! Approach him and talk to him. Start with a light subject...something general that you're confident about. If he's as sweet as you say he is then he's likely to have the decency to appreciate people for who and what they are...that includes you!
There's no instant formulae to overcoming this kind of fear. You just have to convince yourself that you can do it.
I'll keep my fingers crossed...good luck! :)
2007-02-18 15:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by binga 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know how guys feel as its normally them on the receiving end of this.
Hence guys being so shy about asking girls out or appraoching them
Maybe be a bit more flirty.
Ie tighter open top, get a taste for tangle twister ice cream lollies
See how you lick and suck them infront of a mirror and you will get why it gets guys attention.
If raining go out in thin white top so it goes sticky and semi transparent...
Ie draw attention to you are a girl.
Any activity that could get you two touchy in any way helps.
Maybe arrange to need help with something.
It helps to know how old you are and he is as dont want to say anything to strong for your age
2007-02-18 20:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you are not dirt!!!!!
You only seem to have a crush its natural ( I'm assuming your young )
Just act normal and be yourself,everyone and every situation is different so don't be too judgemental about yourself.
Small talk like saying hello ,how are you,nice weather etc.
would be a good starting point for conversation!!!!
Best wishes :)
2007-02-19 13:10:41 · answer #3 · answered by Zenlife07 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some repect for yourself, your not like dirt, no one is. You have your own special quailities that make you unique and you, He is not any better than you, he is like everyone else on equal ground. That said whats stopping you just talking to this guy? Seeing what develops? Just take a chance, stop worrying, stop puting yourself down and go for it.
2007-02-18 20:25:42 · answer #4 · answered by djp6314 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In meeting someone special, i noticed that it's always the ones that you have no interest in at the start, turn out to be the best later on.
My school days were in regret becuase of the things i should have done. The girls i turned down becuase i was a blind ****.
2007-02-18 15:11:27 · answer #5 · answered by David The Visionary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't just talk to him to talk to him, slowly when you see him just say hi and just start talking to him a lil more everytime you see him. But if he seems to get annoyed just back off and slowly try and get closer to him. BUT DONT PUSH IT, if you push to much it will drive him away from being a friend. Or if you have his IM, start talkin to him online. That always seemed ok with me even when i thought a girl was going a lil to far. Hope this helped
2007-02-18 15:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by mychal1216km 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it may sound hard, but you need to move on about that and start going out with other guys. why don't you start hanging around with mutual friends and then tralk to him! He propably won't notice if you are not the most popular girl ever, what he will see is who you are. Good luck!
2007-02-18 15:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to hangout with some one who makes you feel like dirt? you deserve someone better. and don't get hung up on "popularity" it's all just an illusion that arrogant people create for themselves.
2007-02-18 15:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by huhyftcgbjhu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
popularity is overated don't you know teen movies are a bunch of crap that manupulates people to live robotic lives. there just people like you and me and probably not as great as you'd think they were...just talk to him like a noraml person you would talk to.
Never degrate yourself you are not dirt, you are far from it. START TO BOOST up your self esteem and maybe you wont feel like dirt, and guys like girls who are confident too.
2007-02-18 15:35:04 · answer #9 · answered by ~Soul Socks~ aka <Spiderwebs& 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r not dirt.....just go over w/ a mutual friend and tlk about school or simple things...once ur friends u guys can tlk bout other things
2007-02-18 15:01:29 · answer #10 · answered by Laur 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋