I met this really nice guy, he was very interested and would call me 2 or 3 times a day. We kissed on the 1st date, & fooled around a little on the 3rd. I usually don't go that far that fast, but there was a very strong connection.
We would've gone all the way, but had no protection. Of course he was willing to without any protection. He didn't want to go buy any & used the excuse it was too cold to go out, but when I left for the night went out to buy cigarettes. What's up with that? It made me feel like I wasn't important enough.
He called me on V-Day to wish me a happy one, talked for a few minutes & had to go. Reassured me that he would call me later that night. No call. I waited a few days, and sent an email asking him what was up. No response for a few days. Then, finally, a quick email to tell me he was behind with work and school, and would call or write back that day. Nothing again. Here it is like 5 days later and still nothing ~
2007-02-18 14:55:21 · 21 answers · asked by stylishhurthunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also...if he was just using me, what is the point in still keeping in contact with me to tell me that he will get ahold of me when he's not busy? Wouldn't you just blow someone off?
2007-02-18 15:10:18 · update #1
I would take it as a hint that he is not interested. it seems a little weird that he would not wait until after going all the way to act like this if he was going to act like this, but who knows.
I would take it as a showing of what things are to come... if he is not ditching you this way now, he likely will in the future. People don't treat others like this if they are really interested.
Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but it is better to know now before it gets too far.
Good luck.
2007-02-18 15:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by David H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was totally playing you. You didn't put out, so he's not interested. Probably not what you want to hear, but he sounds like a jerk. If a guy is interested, he'll be relentless to pack you into his day, even if he is busy.
I'd stop wondering what is up with him and ditch him. Spend more of your VALUABLE time on a guy that actually wants to get to know you and will go the extra mile for you. You shouldn't have to feel insecure and used when you start a new relationship. Feelings don't lie. I'd hold out for something better. Ditch the game player!! Sounds like he's shown you his true colours early on. Good thing 'cuz you can move on and realize you deserve more than he's capable of giving.
2007-02-18 23:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the problem here is he's NOT in contact with you, you are calling him. Leave him alone, he said he was busy; if he calls, talk about it, if he doesn't, then he's just a player who didn't get lucky and wants nothing else to do with you. Trust me they can be busy but still make time.
2007-02-26 22:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to admit honey but yeah he was using you. He tried to go all the way but he realized you weren't giving it up so he doesn't want to bother with you anymore. Stop emailing him and if you see him around school or whatever act like u r too good for him. Keep your head up and pretend you dont know him.
2007-02-18 22:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by xratedmami05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't sound right, he may have a bunch of girls on the side and can't make up his mind what he wants, be thankful things didn't go further and go and find someone who really cares and loves you for who you are. dump him. Take care Heather
2007-02-18 22:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he was using you especially if he bought cigarettes. You seem like a nice person and could do so much better anyways. Don't let him put a guilt trip on you!
2007-02-18 22:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, it's the same age-old story.
He's Just Not That Into You.
Guys like to fill their little black book with girls names and phone numbers---just in case they're feeling needy. Almost any girl and any number will do.
Do you get my drift here?
DON'T WAIT FOR HIS PHONECALL. If you happen to be home when he calls, fine. If not--Move on!
2007-02-26 19:51:15 · answer #7 · answered by MJ D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. Homework sucks! Don't worry. Call him after a few days & ask him bout his school work. See what he says.
2007-02-18 23:00:36 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥Pro♥♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As Miranda would say from Sex in the City.....He is just not that into you.
Just forget about him. You don't want to be in a relationship that you have to work so hard at from the beginning.
2007-02-18 22:59:49 · answer #9 · answered by JLB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that he's busy, but don't sit around waiting for him. If he is too busy, then you need to be busy, too. If he was just using you, then it's good that you didn't get too involved with him.
2007-02-18 22:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋