should rejection put me down?

Question

yeah im like 210 lbs.... have sence of humor.. have alot of friends... know how to have a good time.. but alot of people tend to judge me for my apperance... coz alot of guys would prefer skinny girl coz they find them so attractive... ever since i was young im always being rejected....

Answer 1

Your still young...and I'm guessing you have yet to learn the magic of a shape! The older you get the easier it is to NOT care what other people think of you. You want to have someone in your life who can look beyond appearence...however the older you get the more you realize that size can transform into a shapely figure that men will love! Don't rush too much though...

Answer 2

Have you ever seen reallyl cute guys with heavy set girls?

I have. When are girls going to realize that some guys do want that skinny model look with the fake boobs.

That willattract a guy, but keeping him is a different thing altogether. The attitude that goes with those prissy pretty girls is somethign that most guys cant stand, and wish theyhad a remote like that one in the movie clicke..wheres the mute button.

Guys want a girl thats sexy.
You can be sexy and heavy at the same time.
you can, but judging by how you word your question, always been rejected, it seems like you have issues that prevent you from being sexy.

Ive known alot of heavier girls that were so cool, I only wish they didnt have hangups about their body. Then things would have went further.

So like that nerdy nice guy that always seems to fall into that 'just friends' group with the girls, so do you need to start getting alittle mac girl to your swagger.
Dress nice,be yourself. Flirt. Have fun with guys, and Im willing to bet, youll get more attention if you stop worrying about how fat you are, and just start being cool, and adding a little sexiness to your game.

Try it!
I was actually with a girl about your size.
It was fun at the beginning, but then the issues she had about her body really got tiring.
If she would just loosen up and not have been so self conscious, then we would have had alot more fun.

P.S. Losing weight is not that hard to do.
Put yourself on a 6 month to a year diet, and you will be able to lose as much weight as you want to.

And, who knows, maybe youll meet some guys that will like you for you in the process.
Good luck with it

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel, sweetie. I'm the same weight as you are, and things haven't exactly been easy for me throughout my life. But, you have to learn that there are certain things you can't change about people. Some guys will always prefer skinnier girls, and you truly can't change that. But what you have to do is find a guy who truly doesn't care about appearances (yes, they do actually exist), and get to know him. If you spend time with that person, and simply use your sense of humor and charm on him, there's a good chance he'll fall madly in love with you. If he doesn't, then screw him. I know that sound brutal, but it's true. The hardest lesson I've had to learn is that you truly don't have to have a boyfriend or someone in love with you to be happy. Not everyone is always going to have that, and you have to find out who you are without that going on in your life. Once you are truly comfortable in your skin, it won't matter what you look like: guys won't be able to resist you. Good luck.

Answer 4

Don't let rejection get you down. Get right back up and try again. If your rejected because of your apperence then the guys an idiot. If he's not smart enough to realize the incredible girl he's missing out on then forget him. Shoot for the stars!! =D

Answer 5

Rejection shouldn't put u down because u shouldn't be in places where u are likely to be rejected. If someone is saying mean things to u then u shouldn't waste time with them. I mean there are lots of negative things that u and me could say about people but we don't have to. People who do say those things don't deserve your attention. Just be yourself. That's really good advice because if someone won't accept u without u trying to meet their standards or be what they think is attractive in a woman or man then u shouldn't waste time with them.

Answer 6

Its what is inside that counts, and there are a lot of men who just love bigger women. Keep your chin up, the right man is probably just around the corner. There are a lot of men who go for what on the inside not the outside. Being a good person is the best thing that you can be. Be patient, you knight will come. Take care Heather

Answer 7

No be proud of yourself. There are skinny and fatter people in ever family. I know some nasty people can try to put guilt trips on others. Love yourself the way you are. Hold your head high. Keep your friends, humour and be friendly then you will find the right guy for you.

Answer 8

Rejection should NOT put you down! A guy that really likes you wouldn't just go for your appearance. He'll like your personality, and if they have a problem with your appearance, well than that's their own mistake for judging you. Don't get put down, because you can't let silly people like them get you in a bad mood. Do not worry about what they think, it's how you feel about yourself!

Answer 9

Theres one answer. Workout. I'm not tryng to be mean but ima guy and in 7th grade i wieghed 170 and was short so that meant i was fat. I work out everyday over the summer and went on the south beach diet cuz i was sick of being rejected. I lost 40 lbs and had my growthsperg. Now im taller and muscular and girls dont reject me on appearance nymore. If u dont wanna do that find a guy who likes u for who u are

Answer 10

I truly believe with all my heart, that we were each made in our own special way. and some may find that to be corny, but you know what, i dont care about what other people think. i do what i want, feel what i want, say what i want. and i think you should do the same. sweetie, let me tell you something, dont ever try to please others in life, because no matter what you do, they will always have something to critizise...life for yourself, have confidence in you... weight is nothing but a number. there is alot more to you than what people think, and you need to show them. as far as guys go, guys are idiots. but i do believe that there is a special someone for everyone...maybe you havent found your prince charming yet, but you will...dont go looking for love, let it come to you...concnetrate on you and your happiness.... also, i think you are fine the way you are...
good luck to you, and keep your head up... listen to those people who bring positive aspects into your life..there are too many negative people out there...