Grandmother relationship?

Question

My grandmother is 75 years old and is married to her 2nd husband for 12 years now.. He is always on the go. Go to church every Sunday, still cut hair, and walk 5 miles every morning. He is living life to the fullest. He never spend anytime with my grandmother. He pays all the bills but he is hurting her emotional. She's not active like him because she have had 2 heart attack within 2 years. My question is. He play pinochle with his friends every Sunday and don't come home until 3:00 in the damn morning. Is he cheating . What should my grandmother do.

Answer 1

Doubt if he's cheating sweetie, but she is probably better off letting him do his thing. Sounds like he might be the type of person that would get cranky if confined for any length of time. Sounds like you love your grandma, keep her company when you can and reassure her that her hubby just gets bored easily. So happy to hear from someone who actually cares about someone in their family, alot of questions are about family who can't stand someone in their families. Your grandma is lucky to have you care so much about her.

Answer 2

I would doubt it.
If he's 75 also, how much sex could he be having.
He's paying all the bills so it's not like he's taking advantage of her and her money.
He's just active and like getting out. How much time do you think 75 yr old people have.
At 75 I'd hate to go to bed myself, knowing that there is so few precious time left.
Would you feel the same way if your grandmother was the one enjoying life or would you expect her to play nurse made?
The second marriage (especially 12 yrs) is different than someone being married for 50 yrs. I'm sure that prior to her health problems they both went out.
Relax I don't think he's cheating unless he's in his early 60's
Having had 2 heart attacks makes it difficult for a person but the partner shouldn't be forced to shutdown as well.

Answer 3

Let's hope, that a man who goes to church every Sunday, who is still with his health, and has lived already to the age of 75, is filled with enough good to do right by his elderly wife.

Answer 4

maybe, old guys need their something in the bed department too, and if you grandmother can't supply, hes going to go elsewhere for it. im not saying thats good or anything, but its a possibility. you grandmother honestly speaking cant do a damn thing, shes 75 is physically fragile and im assuming she has no personal income, i guess shes going to have to stick with the sinking ship, sorry mate

Answer 5

Funny you should ask that. I have a similar problem. I work night and the nights I am off he has begin to stay out til 3-4 am. I am wondering the same. Thing. But back to your question all the other things he is doing is fine. But its the staying out late that concerns me. I mean what the hell is a old man doing out that late. Is he is strip bars? Does he have a gambling problem? As for me I am going to follow my husband one night when he least expects it. I am just to curious

Answer 6

Grandmothers are wonderful aren't they? Be careful you are not treading on unwelcome ground here. Your Grandmother should be addressing the issue not you! Does she have a problem with it? Talk to her but dont put images in her head like her husbands cheating cause thats quite damaging to her emotionally. Just talk with her and see if she had addressed the prob with hubby herself?

Answer 7

If a 75 year old man is cheating, I say more power to him...

Answer 8

Strange but it sounds like he might be cheating.I think your grandmother should ask him where hes been maybe even try to go with him one time.If he takes her to some other place than where hes really going email me at [e-mail] and tell me.

good luck.

Answer 9

Talk them and ask them.
At there age there's not much going on to cheat with

Answer 10

This should be between her and your grandfather. I'm sorry. He's probably not cheating, but how old is he...n