You know someone for many years, an underlying romantic interest has always been there. You reconnect after many years, but once again you end up pushing that person away. Perhaps it was too soon and you were afraid, regardless you let go of what was real. You knew it when you did it, but are just now realizing 6 months later how much you really screwed up. The person is still hurt, but communicating at a simple level. At what point do things change, if ever. How long can one really wait for forgiveness...perhaps it is asking too much. And how do you overcome a distance that seems like the pot at the end of the rainbow, you can see it but never quite get there.
2007-02-18 14:36:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to them
2007-02-18 14:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a great question with a simple answer. Talk to him. Talk about what went wrong in the relationship and try to fix it. Only before you do ask yourself if you really want to give it another try. Be sure that this time you won't push him away b/c he might not be there when you come back next time. Shoot for the stars!! =D
2007-02-18 22:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by lollypop3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if communication is still there, then why not use it?
if pain is still there, then why not let it heal?
if asking for forgiveness is too much, then maybe forgiveness was not meant to be given...
everyone stuffs things up, not knowing that every time we do, we learn... it seems like you learned that the things we throw away, seems to be the things we want...
forgiveness is a powerful weapon and it takes a very strong grown heart to forgive, if you are important to him and if you do mean a lot to him, I don't see why he won't forgive.
you want to overcome a distance, where the destination cannot be seen... you know you can still keep walking to that destination... but it seems like something is stopping you from walking there... not that you can't see where it is, but it looks like you've put something in front of your eyes to not allow you to see the destination... you'll have to figure what that is that is covering your sight.
good luck
2007-02-18 22:54:33 · answer #3 · answered by calv83luc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our feelings can sometimes be complex and we all do different things for different reasons. You need to ask yourself why you are pushing this person away. Does it have to do with them or you? Are you clear about how you feel or do you just like having someone around that always cares for you? Love is a two-way street and it sounds like for years it's been one-way. Either let this person know how you feel or let them go.
2007-02-18 22:46:26 · answer #4 · answered by ACCOUNT CLOSED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you stop being melodramatic? If you pushed someone away, especially if it was more than once, it is up to YOU to make the move, say what needs to be said and ask for a restart. Don't expect that other person to do it after you have rejected them. That won't happen.
2007-02-18 22:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that you are sorry, you were afraid of the feelings that you have and you never meant to hurt them. Tell them that if you could change it you would. It was scarey for you to have thoughs kinds of feelings and you want to try to be the friend that you were suppose to be. Life is too short to live with regret, all you can do is try. Take care Heather
2007-02-18 22:42:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish I knew. I tried to fix my relationship with my ex, but it was too late.
2007-02-18 22:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by kkazman32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to him and tell him that you feel like you made a mistake and see where it goes from there..
good luck
2007-02-18 22:42:29 · answer #8 · answered by ArmyGirlfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋