breaking up with my bf?

Question

I am going to break up with my bf tomorrow but I'm kinda sad because he is like in love with me. That is what basically everyone says. I really don't like him anymore and I just think that we should move on. I still want to be his friend though. How should I do this and be guilt free? I was going to tell one of his friends to tell him because he is in a different grade or would this be even worse? I have never broken up with anyone in face.

Answer 1

Please talk to him in person and privately. Tell him that you have nothing but fond memories of the time you have spent together, but your likes and interests have changed since you first met him. This is a normal part of maturation. He will not want to be your friend for some time, so be prepared. Eventually, the pain he feels will diminish and you may yet again become friends. Two things to beware of: 1) don't send him mixed signals that gives him hope for rekindling the relationship, and 2) if he is obsessive or won't let you go, tell a parent immediately! Good luck.

Answer 2

I know how you feel, this has happened to me multiple times. If you really don't like him then you should def. break up with him because the longer you drag it on the harder it will be. To be able to do this feeling guilt free you have to be confident and make him realize the situation. The best breakup I have ever had was by telling him that I love hanging out with him and it really makes my day when I do. And I told him that I don't ever want to lose that so the only way to keep him forever as a friend was to stop getting my emotions involved. Yes it was really hard for him to quit seeing me as a girlfriend but he understood completely. The thing about me is I treat my friends and boyfriends alike besides you know... the relationship part lol. So if you don't treat him any differently then it will be easier for the both of you. The worst thing you can do is avoid him the first week after you break up because it makes things hella akward. Honestly the best thing you can do is the next day when you see him give him a hug and tell him its nice to see him. And the WORST thing you can do is break it off through a friend because you honestly look like you are scared and can't handle the situation by yourself. I would break it off to his face even though its way hard. Just make sure you two are in private so that is isnt a public ordeal.

Answer 3

What is this highschool? Have the balls to tell him in person. At least this way he will hate you and you won't have to worry about being friends with him at all. There is no easy way out of this, and you won't be guilt free. If you are too scared, just try e-mail, text, or at least call him. But don't go and involve a friend, thats just the lowest thing possible. How would you like it if ur bf tells his friend to go tell you he's sick of you? Doesn't sound so good now does it? Its not the end of the world, at least you'll be free.

Answer 4

I am afraid you must do this yourself... do not have a friend do it for you, especially if you want to keep him as a friend. By having someone else do it, he will be even more embarressed since he was not the first to know.

What you need to say is basically that you think he is a great guy, but you just are not feeling that you view him more than just a friend. You know that it is not going to turn into love and you do not want to waste his time or deceive him.

I just did this two weeks ago with my girlfriend and it is really tough, but if you know that you want to end it, get it over with. I knew I could not fake it and I did not want to lead her on.

Best of luck. This is not easy, but you seem very sure of how you feel, so you will feel better when it is all done.

Let me know how it goes.

Answer 5

Just say that you have decided that it is in your best interest to only be his friend from now on.

You then say that you hope he understands. No matter WHAT he says, keep repeating that you have4 decided to end it but you hope0e the two of you can remain civil. Also tell him there isn't ;t another to compete with him. You are going to move on and he has to accept it. You are sorry if he feels hurt, but a man of his character and qualities will have no problems finding someone else.

Answer 6

Telling a friend is the cowards way out and girls do that all the time. sorry girls but it's true. if you can't do it face to face, call him up on the phone. and trust me, there's no way you won't feel guilt free about it. give it a few days and maybe you'll get over it. just hope he does too.

Answer 7

I just had the same problem. omg i was so scared to break up with someone in person, but it's not as bad as you think. my now ex boyfriend was at first like no im in love with you, because i sprung it on him. i would start dropping hints. it sounds mean but start hanging out with him less, and dont answer his calls as much. then i think he'll notice somethings up, and when you do break up with him, he'll figure out that thta was why you were acting so weird. it sounds cruel, but it's better than totally suprinsing him. sometimes stuff doesnt work out, but he'll get over it eventually. just keep being friendly after you break up, let him cool off, and hopefully all will be well

Answer 8

Tell him things just arent working out for you at this time and that you cant be in a relationship at the moment. You want to be friends and nothing more.

Answer 9

dont do it through friends ! thts the worse thing u can do !! ok wht i did is said its been great and i really dont want to hurt u but i think its time we just be friends . their is a better girl out there 4 u . if he is hurt still there isnt anything u can do kk ! best of luck

Answer 10

Okay first if you break up with him and still be his friend it needs to be face to face. Text message or phone or yahoo or the messenger break up can leave the guy thinking i didnt need her she didnt have the courage to break up face to face or why?. It can also ruin the friendship. Also dont ask some1 else out the week u break up with him.