What should I do?

Question

I am currently 22 years old, attend a local University and live at home with my dad. Even though I am doing well at school, I feel I need to get away. I don't much care for the state or city I live in, nor the choices or friends I have made over the years. They are great people, but they don't seem to have the expectations in the world I have. I would like to transfer schools and move away from this place, but feel scared. I don't know if this will really help me to acomplish anything. I have applied at a school about 6 hours away and plan on applying to two schools on either coast. I have plenty of family members and friends who will miss me, but I feel, like I said they are not boosting me to my potential. I am handed anything that I need or want, and feel this could be a hinder to me. I'm not sure what I should do at this point. Do I leave behind everyone and everything I have ever known to try and find something better, or do I tough it out and move away after school?

Answer 1

i think that if you feel that where you are isnt working for you, than you should move and try something new. i dont think that you should forget everyone and everything that you grew up with. you should let them know that they are important but you need to go off and try something new. and if it doesnt work out than you know you can always come back.
i hope that this helped.

Answer 2

Thats a very tough question..and you're pretty young as well to have to make such a hard decision like that. There are several things you need to consider...first is why do you feel others need to boost your potential? That is something that should come from within yourself. After all, if you move away whose going to be able to boost you if your far from all people you know? Secondly, what school are you applying for and is it a better school than the one your currently attending for your specific career choice? Weigh the pros and cons of both situations...or what you could fall back on if things don't really go your way. I want to commend you for realizing that getting handed everything in a silver platter is not all that sweet. It definitely affects who you will become in the future, with things only getting worse when people around you stop helping you and you have to stand on your own two feet. It takes much more than age to make a person an "adult". There's responsibility and how well you can handle things on your own. I really hope this helped..I answered as best I could.

Answer 3

Perhaps sharing my story will help. I felt very much like you once.

I am an over-achiever now but wasn't always. Was a tough kid in high school partly just to survive where I went to school. Hated it badly and at the advice of an older person busted my tail to graduate a year early. That started me on the path towards success, learning that I could do whatever I wanted to do if I were to only work at it.

Joined the military to get away from all of it. After a tour of duty in Alaska I returned to northern California where I grew up to discover that I had outgrown it. Moved to southern California and got my degree. Liked the area so stayed around, got married and had a kid. Decided I needed more education and went back for a second degree in a related field.

Got divorced, got custody of my kid and moved back again to where I grew up. Still didn't fit in but made the best of it for another 12 years. Got married again, adopted another kid and had still another. Offered a transfer to Texas where I've been for 8 years.

I rarely talk to my family other than my own wife and kids. My parents have long since passed away, my brothers and sisters are all still in the world I couldn't stand, that did not meet my desires in life. Many of the people I grew up with have died or gone to prison. None of them have anything like the life I have and have had.

Own a business now and am doing well. Have a lot of good friends and will probably remain here the rest of my life. Over all, I'm happy now but had to follow my nose until I found what would make me complete.

You have a life ahead of you. There are going to be hardships and difficult decisions to make. In the end, your life is going to be what you make it. You are not here to please your friends and you are not here to please your parents. You are here to make a life for yourself and whatever life you have, the good and the bad, will be the result of the choices you make today. Make the choices based on what is going to give you a good life without harming others.

Answer 4

As a mental health practitioner with 20+ years experience, now retired, and a 3 time university graduate, I can say that your choices do have several variables, such as, what is your major, and is moving going to jeopardize your ability to get family financial aid to complete your graduate program. If that's the case, then I'd say "tough it out" and get the job done. You'll have time to live on your own after you graduate. But if you can swing it financially, even if it's a bit scarey and tough, I'd say you're old enough to get it done, so MOVE. It's incredible the "breath of fresh air" you get when you move away from lifelong ties and see how wonderful the world can be on your own, even if it's scarey and tough. I know because I lived in a "uppity" part of Dallas all my life, and I had the chance to attend a nearby, well established, private university, all bills paid, and staying at home, but, I chose otherwise, even though I had no previous experience, not even a part time job prior to the summer following my senior year in highschool, but, I did it, and both me and my dad were very glad. My dad said several times in his life how proud he was of me, and he always recalled that incident of my moving out on my own and taking on the challenges of "real life" as the primary reason of his pride in me. I'm nothing spectacular, but I did get that done, even though I could've lived "the life of luxury" had I stayed at home. I think it had something to do with really becoming an adult in today's world. God Bless you.

Answer 5

This is a huge decision- but i think you should try moving. If you feel like you aren't getting what you need where you are, then your only going to feel worse the longer you stay where you are. get out there and enjoy your life. i wish you well, and hope you make the right decision and are happy with your life soon. college will not last forever but it will make a huge impression on your life

Answer 6

It might be good to get a fresh start!!! Live ur life the way u want it! Plus u can always visit!

Answer 7

You just want to start your own life, independence is good, finishing school would be smart, but do it whenever you want, its natural to feel scared youre wanting to leave everything you have