So I've been talking to this girl for over a year now, we have hung a lot over that time period in which we grew comfortable with each other's company. About a month and half ago, she came out and said she liked me. I said, "Okay, we'll explore and see what happens." So over this past month we hung out numerous times.
When I went out with other girls, she seemed to get jealous. Now, I took her out and wanted to take things up a notch with her, but we ran into her friends while we were out. I got completely blown off, and I was not too happy with that. I called her the next day and told her that I was not happy. I asked where we stood and now she just wants to be friends. I'm like "Okay, what the heck?" One day this girl likes me, and the next day she is confused and wants to figure things out. Should I just move on and not look back or is there hope? When I called her out on it, she didn't seem to know what I was talking about either. So I am confused!!! What should I do? Move on?
2007-02-18 14:17:54 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ask her what the problem is.
2007-02-18 14:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say it but she sounds a little self involved. Especially if she doesn't know that she hurt you or is pretending she doesn't know that she hurt you. Some girls are like that. But, there is hope. There are many girls who are not. I think the reason it's not working for the two of you is because you may have gotten a little too comfortable as buddies, and just aren't able to go from pals to partners. Good news is, you've now learned a hard but honest lesson: Relationships are completely confusing, difficult and in the end well worth it. Eventually you will succeed, maybe not right now, but eventually, and it will be wonderful. Good luck!
2007-02-18 14:27:27 · answer #2 · answered by jilando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can always come back to this lass later, when the time is right for you & her both.
Girls may seem fickle, flirtatious, and "funny" to us guys, since they are much more adept (in general) at communication, sending & recieving subtle messages in gestures, facial expressions, body language, tone of voice, and even with the exact time a topic is brought up. Us guys miss most of this, and let our words stand at face value--as if in print--and read the words of others in much the same way; at least compaired to females. So we miss alot of what is being said, and say more than we knew we were communicating. So, buy her standards, she may have felt she was quite clear about the agenda, and you just missed it.
2007-02-18 14:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if moving on seems like the right thing to do, then more power to you. however, maybe she just wanted you to get a taste of your own medicine. i mean even though you two weren't going out, she probably figured that after she told you that she liked you that you two would become somewhat of an item. so, when you didn't and went around seeing other girls, she got jealous. so, now when you two went out she dropped you on your asss because thats what she feels you did to her when you went out with those other girls. i believe she still likes you, but maybe she is confused about your intentions towards her considering you went out with other girls after she told you flat out that she liked you. just give her a few days and try to figure out if something is wrong. maybe she just needs to know that you like and care about her, too.
2007-02-18 14:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should forget her a move on, She is playing games and if she knows she can do that with you and you hang on she wont stop, If use end up having anything to her it will be a game. There are heaps of girls out there who will give you there time and will be strait out with you. Don't settle for the one who's going to play games, shes not worth it you deserve better and can get better.
Hope all goes well for you!
2007-02-18 14:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
her actions might just be repercussions from you taking out other girls after she said she liked you. a lot of girls take that sort of thing really seriously. in this case, keep trying, and show her you care. however, she might have just felt that you were better as a friend than a boyfriend, and wanted to stay that way. i would keep trying, but dont push it, and look for signs to see if she still likes you. but be careful not to lose the friendship
2007-02-18 14:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd move on. It doesn't look like she liked you as more than a friend in the first place, or she just wanted to give it a try and figured that you two didn't click.
2007-02-18 14:28:29 · answer #7 · answered by Shorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personal experience tells me that you should move on. I have had allot of girl friends tell me that and that is why they are called ex-girlfriends, another thing ids I would have to agree with Victoria j in saying that guys do the same thing when it comes to a relationship.
2007-02-18 14:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by michaelv37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason she is acting like this is because she is probably genuinely confused or she feels bad for blowing you off. She could also be shy. I would ask her how she really feels about you and go with what she says. Good luck!
2007-02-18 14:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by *Dancer 4 ever* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, so it's okay for you to go out with other girls? But when she meets up with some friends, you get jealous?
PPPPUUUUUUULLLLLLEEEEEEEEEEZZZZZZZZZ
You gotta be smarter than that.
Quit trying to be a player and tell her that you love her and then DO NOT GO OUT WITH OTHER GIRLS!!!!
2007-02-18 14:24:46 · answer #10 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋