I met this girl in my english class. Everything was normal then she asked me to the sadie hawkings. I really couldn't come so I said no. Then two days later she make this joke about wanting to marry me and wanting me to be the father of her child but I get the feeling she wasn't really joking. I am pretty sure I am in love with her too but my parents won't let me date till I am 16. I am 15 and my birthday is in July and I am afraid that we won't have any classes together next year.
2007-02-18 14:09:42 · 11 answers · asked by Miles V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
haha ummm well i can tell you alot of things both good and bad ...but ill tell you the bad....mostly because the bad is mostly true.....
you are not in love first of all ...but iam guessing that you are the type of person that needs alot of love and if you dont have that love and you meet someone that can possibly "love" you then you will take it...you are only 15 and thats not an age you can say "i love her" nope sorry. . the time will come when you can say i love her its just not going to be this particular person...you can be with her but at the age of 16 its not going to last. Mostly because their will be a time where you or she will get bored and boom she or you will leave the relationship. again being 15 people at their teenage years they tend to "love" more than they do in their entire life. until you meet the right person . i am 15 too so iam not saying this to make you mad but i usto think i loved this one girl but it turned out to be a fraud so yea and that wont always happen to everyone ...but it happens. and i think the main reason your parents wont let you have a girl friend until 16 is so that you wont be distracted from your studies. iam guessing its not working ...you probably think about her all the time.....( that happend to me) mostly i think you should talk to your parents on how you feel (talk first with your mom she will most likely understand, then if she does shel talk to your dad about it and might convince him to let you date......but then again i dont know your parents and their ways on raising their kids....... ive never really heard of a boy not being able to date , usually its the girl that cant date untill a particular birthday.
the last thing i will tell you is if you really want this to happen (that way later on in your life you cant be reminiscing about this and thinking what if that relationship actually existed) go for it. but remember you dont love her its your hormones that make you feel that way.
ooooooooooo and another thing marriage at 15 is not a good thing to do or sign...
2007-02-18 15:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by David Garcia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating isn't the problem but saying that you're in love and mentioning marragie is. Trust me I know how you're feeling. But it most likely won't work out. I think your parents are doing you a favor by keeping you away from the pain disappointments can cause. There is no greater pain then believing you will spend the rest of your life with someone and then it not happening.
As for dating , sit down with your paretns and ask them why they've made this rule. If you're close enough tell them how you feel. If they still tell you to wait. Do so because they are your authority. Besides if you REALLY like this girl you can wait a year ... and if she REALLY liked you , wouldn't she wait too?
2007-02-18 14:20:13 · answer #2 · answered by Malie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt sitting down with your mothers and fathers and having and open and truthful communicate with them approximately your thoughts and your could come across them. mendacity won't get you everywhere so sneaking around with him will in easy terms bring about them no longer trusting you in the event that they ever found out. in the event that they stated you cant date until eventually your 14 it become for a reason. possibly they gained't show you how to bypass out on my own with this guy , yet you could attempt and see in the event that they're going to enable a team date , with possibly you and a pair of-3 different couples/acquaintances. additionally yet another selection could be to work out him in the afternoon incredibly than at night , they won't be as adversarial to an afternoon lunch/movie date as they are going to be to a minimum of one at night. solid success
2016-09-29 07:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date her in the traditional Saturday night way, but get to know her on more casual after-school "dates" that just involve hanging out, even with other friends of both sexes. Find ways to hook up with her on weekends, doing fun & cheap stuff together, letting the mutual attraction grow slowly. This could involve hanging out at a park, movie, going shopping, or just hitting your favorite fast-food joint, until Mommie & Daddy give their blessings, and the family car in July. But let her know why you are currently limited, and how you are going to respect your parents wishes, so they do not grow to hate this gal as "the one causing our boy to sin" before they even meet her. This will tell her you are wanting to give the relationship a good, long-term chance. And if she really likes you, she will respect this, and be patient.
2007-02-18 14:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by Howie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the same situation. I'm mormon and we arent supposed to date till we're 16 and i'm only 14, (almost 15). I'm trying to follow that but it's really hard because i'm totally head over heels for this guy that likes me too. He's also mormon so we're kind of at a stand-still. Even if i decided to break the rules, he probably wouldnt anyways.
Hm...for now just try to be friends with her. If she asks you out or anything like that, tell her your situation and that you would like to go out with her but cant. Tell her you'd like to get to know her and be friends and to ask again when you're 16. She's bound to understand. And if she's worth it and truly has feelings for you, she'll be willing to wait. Good luck. Hope this helped.
2007-02-18 14:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by 17*mezzo*17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, well I would say you need to respect your parents wishes. If you really can't stand it, and you know you want to let her know you like her, just be honest. Tell her you can't date until you're sixteen, and just make a joke out if it. Say like, " I'll take a raincheck for next year though." I'm sure she'll undestand. Good luck!
2007-02-18 14:14:40 · answer #6 · answered by Carly K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here are your options:
1) Date her behind your parents back (if want to do this you're going to have to pretend she's just a friend till your bday and cover up your dates and whatnot)
2) Wait till your bday and THEN ask her out...you never noe if its meant to be it will be
3) Um..let go of her?
2007-02-18 14:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by May 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is not a situation you want to get into. She it thinking way ahead of her age. You don't need that trouble at your age. Wait and find someone else who is more your age mentally.
2007-02-18 14:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by Nort 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to staygood friends with her until July. You are so in love (duh!) Invite her over, hang out, etc. or just tell your parents u are in love and would like to date. just dont act immature and be serious wit ur parents.
Good Luck!
2007-02-18 14:14:37 · answer #9 · answered by FallOutBoyRocker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your parents wont let you date her doesnt mean you can't talk abut stuff or do thigs with her
2007-02-18 14:18:47 · answer #10 · answered by Tracy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋