how do you get over some you love so long?

Question

well we been going out for a few years and we just broke up but i still miss him ever day.

Answer 1

it takes time....I know right now that sounds awful.....but little by little your heart will move on....

Answer 2

Well, I had some bad news, and some good news, honey. The bad news is, you'll probably never "get over" him. Sure, the pain will eventually lessen, and you'll find yourself missing him less and less each and everyday, but you'll always, always have the memories. Little things, they're actually called "love hooks," like your favorite foods, movies you've seen together, his old cologne, all of these things will constantly stir up emotions that will never quite go away.

But, on the other hand, live and let live. You've loved, and you were loved, and that in itself is the most beautiful thing. Granted, you may not be together anymore, but you'll have the memories, and the experience. For the next relationship that you'll have, and probably the many after that, you'll always have the experiences that you gain in your life that will help you become the best person that you can be.

You know what helps after losing someone you love? Finding yourself. Satisfying your needs, loving your mind and body, and finding a happiness within is the most important thing to a healthy and wonderful life. Take yoga, learn an instrument, enjoy your time with your family, and your friends. Because when you know what's good for you, you'll be able to love and live to the fullest.

Good luck honey.

Answer 3

I am in the same situation...we dated for 2 years and just recently broke up and I miss him very much with each passing day and still have hope for us...I know exactly how you feel, it's hard but somehow someway you just have to keep pushing on...you have to let yourself admit the possibilites and realities that come with a break up...and look at it as in a way a new beginning get involved in somethign you've always wanted to do...it will get your mind off him so much and give you an outlet to express yourself. I wish you the best of luck just know that your not alone there are millions of people in this world who feel the same as we do, and even though it's hard I know it helps me to hear that beause at times it feels like everyone else around you is in a happy relationship. but in reality it's really not that way...so reconnect with your friends go out and have fun, just live your life after all thats really all you can do...and with time things will work themselves out the way they are suppose to..

Answer 4

My first love (should say first crush) was tj. I had loved him everyday, every minute, every second for four straight years. We never went out so I don't know actually how you feel but I think both of our pains are almost simmilar. I know the feeling of saying goodbye when you have no choice but too.
I know the feeling of letting go when you want to hold on forever but can't. It hurts right now, but you'll move on and live your life day by day. It will take sometime but you'll make it with the brightest and biggest smile on your face. You'll love again. And who knows, maybe he and you will get back together and make it.
Remember, if he can know longer try your tears: The wind can.

Answer 5

For me, it's been over 30 years and I am still in love with her. I always will be.

If it's true love, you will never 'get over' this person, you will simply learn to move on. I don't love my wife any less. She is (was) the right choice in my life. Non the less, I still love this other woman - and yes, my wife is aware of her - but I digress.

If this person is really special to you, they will always hold a place in your heart.

Happy life!

The Ol' Sasquatch Ü

Answer 6

It's okay honey, I dated this guy for 4 years and I'm still not quite over him. He was my first love and they say you NEVER stop loving your first love. But I try to take it day by day and remember to go on without him. Be strong, time heals all.

Answer 7

hun i had same prob but i finally moved on. its not really bout "getting over" cuz if you truly love someone ull never "get over" them its just a time will tell kinda thing. be patient, give yourself freedom and a new perspective like oh im gonna start dating again and enjoy the dating scene being single, or im gonna start enjoying the single scene and enjoy my singleness, talk to other people who care bout u n u care about, try not to get urself in a rut n get depressed cuz i know ull start thinkin bout him n theres lots of triggers like songs or things u see or even things ppl say willl trigger something. like my mom said to me, have a reason to get up every morning n it triggered me n i started to cry cuz that was my reason for getting uop and being alive every day to be with the one i love. now i jsut try not to think bout her get itnerested in other people, that always works. i can really talk to you bout this cuz i have lot of experience and i seriously knwo what your going through. and ur not replacing him or forgetting him if u move on with ur life, he prob is too. and u deserve to be happy, even when ur not with him. dun worry bout how long its been. it took me 9 months after my so called break up to move on. and dont think of it as letting go cuz ull always love him, but just wont be the same type of feeling u know. and moving on isnt forgetting its just moving on with ur life, still having him in your heart.

Answer 8

you dont know how many times i have heard these kinda questions but im gonna tell u wat i tell the others kk
you cant stop yourself from loveing someone believe me ive tryed heres one thing that u could try
hang with a lot of your guy friends or alot of guys and c which 1 u could b better off with then go from there

Answer 9

I think you should get back togather but first have one of your friends ask him if he feels this same about you.
Goodluck, hope i helped :)

Answer 10

go holidays with friends somewhere n try to make new friends.u w'd slowly forget about him sooner or later.good luck.

Answer 11

DONT THINK ABOUT HIM!!! do stuff that takes your mind off it like friends movies etc