spanking my 5 yr old?

Question

my 5yr old was at church and a 13 yr old took her to the bathroom 4 me and they came back 15 minutes later and the 13 yr old said she threw a tantrum and refused to go to the bathroom unless she got a ice cream or something she wanted so i took her to the bathroom myself and i said go to the bathroom now ahe said no i said ok you dont have to go then she started screaming i said stop screaming and go to the bathroom she ran out into the sanctuary and started rolling a tantrum on the floor i picked her up took her to the bathroom sat her butt on the toilet and i said go now she said no!!! so i sat on the toilet put her over my knee and gave her a couple swats on her bare butt was it right to do this and whats the things a 5yr old does to earn a spanking

Answer 1

Nope you blew it. You shouldn't stifle her self expression.

Answer 2

I know that the response today is DON'T SPANK. Well I disagree with this. I believe that a few swats on the butt will not damage your child. Just as long as you don't take it to far. Most children will learn from the exsperince that they did not behave and that would happen if they did that again. I was spanked as a child and I have spanked my children. We have turned out great. I listened to my parents, did good in school, and now have a great family of my own. Which my kids are great kids. Yeah they have there days but what kids doesn't. But for those time when they want to throw a tantrum then that is the best thing to do. Give them a swat.
And if you will probably feel bad when you do it, but you need to tell yourself that really you didn't hurt her, if it is just a swat.... Don't over do it. Just a swat.

Answer 3

Sounds like you handled things. But maybe it was that she did not want to be in church. That can be boring for a five year old. Do they not have a child care place at the church? Why is a 5 year old expected to sit still in a sanctuary and behave? Even us adults fall asleep during the long winded sermons.

Answer 4

If you are going to spank, do it with clothes on, do it only with your hand, never a belt or a switch, and limit how many swats you give to her. I do spank and these are my rules. I was abused alot as a child. I remember getting hit with a switch or a belt and having my brother or sister neosporin over the cuts caused by what was used. As a parent now, I remember very vividly how horrible my back and legs looked and how WORTHLESS I felt when this happened to me, so make sure you don't cross that line. Also, never spank when you are angry. I hope this helps. It's tough to discipline with out hurting their spirits.

Answer 5

Well if it is okay in your eyes, then yes. Your child is at the age where she knows when you are bluffing. Just saying NO does not always work. You have to show her you mean business. You are not beating your daughter, dont let all these people make you think that. There is a HUGE difference and not everyone realizes that. You did what you feel right, and you are her mother, you know what is right for your daughter, and if that was the necessary thing to do, then so be it. You did nothing wrong.

Answer 6

Wow, I'm still reeling from that horrible run-on sentence!! I'm confused by this whole thing. How did you have a child and make it to 5 years of age without figuring out somewhere along the way whether you believe in spanking or not? Had she never misbehaved up til now, and this came up out of the blue? Or has she been misbehaving all along with no rules or limits, and you're just now realizing that YOU need to discipline her?

I think she was being a brat and needed some discipline in this situation, but it also sounds like you handled it pretty poorly. The issue wasn't whether or not she used the toilet (she shouldn't be punished for that!), it was her pitching a fit for the 13 y/o, and then for you, to get her way. I don't find any fault in the fact that you spanked her, BUT you should never spank a child's bare bottom.

Whoever said you should spank her in front of others to shame her, please don't listen to that. Shaming has no place in parenting. We should be disciplining our children with love and building them up, not shaming them and breaking their spirits. The object of discipline is to teach, not to control.

Answer 7

She's your child, and totally your responsibility. Which means it yours job to make sure she grows up properly and as well-behaved as possible. As long as you aren't bruising her, or hitting her in the face, head, etc. I see no problem with a spanking. It all depends on you, and what you feel is right.

Answer 8

Yes

Answer 9

Well yes she was being bad and so u punshied her but try to settle things a little differrenly next time

Answer 10

DEAR
YES BECAUSE YOU TELL YOU DO NOT ACT LIKE THAT IN GODS HOME LIKE YOU ARE NOT GOING TO DO IT IN MINE LITTLE GIRL READ THE BIBLE IT SAYS IT IN THERE SPEAR THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD SO NO DEAR YOU WAS NOT WRONG YOU DONE IT RIGHT SO DO NOT LET YOU TELL ANY THING DIFFERENT OK TAKE CARE

Answer 11

Sounds like she definatly deserved the spanking. The only thing I would have done differently would have been to spank her in front of others., she would think twice about acting like that after that humiliation.