What's the nicest way possible to tell someone you've gone out with a few times that you're just not intereste

Question

I mean, there's no nice way to say that and there's so many cliched things you can say, but is there any way not to make the person feel like crap?

Answer 1

It's tough thing to do - but in the long run its better not to lead someone on and make them believe you like them when you don't.

First of all: Don't say you will call - and then don't. That's the cowards way out and can leave the person feeling bitter.

This should be done face to face. (Very hard - but it's the nicest way) If you just can't bear to do it face to face, at least call. Explain where you are coming from: "I'm really sorry, but I don't think we have enough in common," "I think we don't really have a future because we seem to want different things out of life" or "I'm sorry, but I'm just not feeling a physical connection".

Be honest. And please, whatever you do - do not say: "It's not YOU it's ME."

Be as gentle as possible as this person might have deep feelings for you. If you are doing this on the phone - I know it's uncomfortable, but don't make excuses to get off right away. This person needs closure and their self-esteem is bruised. They will probably have questions, such as: "Did I say or do something?" and you must be fair and answer these questions, because if you don't - it makes it harder on the person, because they are left wondering "What did I do wrong? I am such a loser!" and that's not what you want.

Make it clear that not everyone is match - and it doesn't mean there is something wrong with the person - it just means the two of you were not meant to be a "couple".

Good Luck and be brave!

Answer 2

I know exactly what you mean...no one wants to have their feelings hurt or hurt someone else by rejecting them. But there's the thing called "chemistry" that is a must and if it's not in the relationship, it won't work. You just have to be politely honest and tell it like it is.

Answer 3

There is no nice way to say you lost interest to someone with out hurting their feelings. The best approach is being straight forward.

Answer 4

tell them it was good getting to know them you still want to continue to be friends, they are a good person, but not what you were looking for.

then tell them why they are a good person and why they aren't what you are looking for.

if she walks away or walks out she doesn't want to continue being friends. call her up later that night to check up though.

goodluck

Answer 5

You say "Guess who wants to go out with you?"

When they say "Who?", then you reply "Not me".

Answer 6

be honest that you want to be off and that all