I have 100% physical and legal custody of my son, how much does my ex get to visit him?

Question

my son is 16month I have always been the careprovider. we have not lived in the home since sept and the divorce is final march 20th. my ex travels alot for his job and has no residence or car.he has not seen him in about 5weeks. emails only asking to see me, then my son if I wont repond to his emails, threatening to sue for custody ect. I have legal and physical custody the court paper says only visitation as per between parties. how much to do I need to let hin visit legally. my ex was verbally abusive and manipulative and I have just recently been able to break away from allof it. he has said before if he couldnt have me that, he would sign away his rights, then another day he wil say hes suing for custody(he never even showed up for court through all the custody and divorce) never reponded to any of the papers served on him.

Answer 1

Can you have a third person come to your house to supervise his visitation with your son? It would have to be someone that your husband cannot manipulate or intimidate....maybe social services can help you and you can arrange supervised visits through them. I suggest you continue to limit your contact with him and make sure you make hard copies of any and all threatening emails and give them to your lawyer. You may need them. (Always keep an additional copy someplace safe out of your home with some third party or in a safety deposit box.) It is a sorry state that we have to protect ourselves from the very people that were supposed to protect us! Make a documented effort to make sure he has an opportunity to see the child. You don't want to be accused of anything at this point. Talk to your lawyer (I hope you have a good one!). Best wishes and good luck.

Answer 2

Well you’ll all have to work visitation together, in fact that should have probably been done before this. It honestly seems your ex could care less about being an active parent in the boys life and is using him as a ways to hang on too you. However unless he signs his rights away to the child, he does have a right to visitation. Unless he was some how a threat to the child’s safety.

K-Fed sees his boys 3 days a week for 4 hours. Since your ex travels a lot it’s probably difficult to arrange an exact time and days etc. Perhaps try at least 24 hour notice. Does your ex have parents that live in the area he could visit with his parents around if you trust them.

Answer 3

If the custody papers say "as agreed upon" w/out stating a specific amount of time for visitation then there is no court ordered visitation. If this is the case you dont have to send the child however since he was given visitation rights he could go back to court and get more firmly establised visitation.

Answer 4

Go back over your divorce decree. It should specify how often he's allowed to see your son. The best thing for you son is to have a healthy relationship with your ex-husband, however if he's making it impossible, and the harassment ensues you may have legal grounds to file charges against him...I don't know if it's all that bad or you want to take it that far, however either way you need to speak with someone in the court system who can let you know exactly what you are obligated to do, that way you don't get in any trouble yourself.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

well for one keep everything he sends.he can get visitation usually it is every other weekend but without a home it will make it hard.if your divorce papers show the abuse he might not get them at all.the only way my ex was able to is if he himself went to court and before the judge to set it up which he never did do.the only way to get custody of the baby is to prove you unfit which is very hard to do.not responding to divorce/custody hearings will not look good on him.he is just talking out of his butt.dont worry about it.he wont win unless you are seriously a mental case or abusive to the child and again it is very hard to prove.

Answer 6

if it isn't specifically spelled out in the court order, then i would tell him he can come over and see his son at your house, with you present anytime he wants. (as long as he gives you 24 hour notice that he wants to spend the day with his son)
i would not leave them unattended and i wouldn't let him take the baby anywhere by himself. i would also set up a hidden camera somewhere to document visits, you never know when they might come in handy for court, especially if he threatens you or threatens to take the child.

Answer 7

Then I'd let his hallow threats lie. He can't take your son and he can only see him on your say so. If he tries to take you to court the chances are very good that he will lose. You are the primary, as I read, only caregiver, for the child, so he hasn't a legal leg to stand on.

Answer 8

Well I would think if he is a healthy and fit father. I would let him visit the baby once during the week. And every other weekend.

Answer 9

nicely... you are able to surely sue him for injury to non-public assets. nonetheless i've got self assurance that in case you do, your friendship with this guy or woman is possibly over. yet you have been quite silly to assume his automobile coverage to cover your automobile. that's automobile coverage, no longer motive force coverage. automobile coverage is issued on the automobile, no longer the motive force. that's not significant if he had his automobile insured... that coverage does not conceal any automobile different than the only that's taken out on.