feeling ashamed, lost and i can't bring myself to go to school?

Question

Maybe i'm imagining this but I think some of the people in school think I am\was depressed and they talk to me weird. I am not and I wasn't depressed just that I had a panic attack once in class one year ago and I cried and some saw it.

I am a loner, but by choice though. I enjoy being alone than being with a clique liek I was when I started schoo. But I think people think that I am just pathetic and cannot fit in. Some of the things they say seem to imply I try too hard to fit in and that is pathetic

I joined clubs one with a political cause one religious and I think coursemates think that I joined only because I am desperate to know friends. But that wasn't my purpose in joining

I'm a medical student in the UK meaning undergraduate level. So everyone knows each other the class is really small.

I stopped caring what others think for a long while until yesterday. I could not sleep last night. I can't bring myself to sit alone in full view of everyone in lectures anymore

Answer 1

You need to talk to a professional if you think your quality of life is being hampered. I know how you feel, I also had these type of feelings while in college. It sounds like social anxiety or phobia, but you say it doesn't bother you what people think? Try ro talk with someone about your feelings.

Answer 2

There is a lot of good advice on here that I won't repeat. But what I want to say is that when you are out of school, and in the "real world" you will think that all that stuff you went through in college was just a bunch of immaturity. When I hear what 20 somethings are worrying about, I internally roll my eyes over it, because it is so meaningless and petty. Your feelings aren't petty, but if some others are worrying about you and talking about you in a negative way, well, they need to grow up.

I have to say, though, that a lot of times, people feel that others are talking about them a lot more than others are actually talking about them. So you may not really be much of a topic of conversation. So long as you keep a couple of outside friendships going, you will have social support in your life.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I can understand why you are feeling that way. Being labeled and shaking that label off is quite difficult. I would suggest to try make one friend that is willing to understand you, and maybe that will ease off that weirdness that every one is subjecting towards you. I know that sounds so easy, but I really don't know what other way to shake off that tension between yourself and others. Also, don't let it bring you down. Don't quit because of what other people MIGHT think. You can't assume for others, and those people may not even give a hoot about what you say or do. I 'm going through the same thing in college, but I learned that every one is going through something different, and we may not realize what we say or do to others. So just keep trying, don't give up. It'll be all worth it in the end.

Answer 4

First thing first. Unless they are in a position where their criticisms have merit/weight, IGNORE THEM. You do not need their input in any way, shape or form.

My question is: If you didn't care what they thought until yesterday, then what changed? What makes you conscious of what they think? Have they said something or is it that you THINK they are saying things.

Social Anxiety Disorder causes people to believe they are being judged or watched. You have to look at what IS happening and what you THINK is happening. Talk to a doctor about your situation. Worst case scenario its a disorder and you know your options. Best case, Your healthy and just too worried about other people's opinions. They don't mark your work or hire you.

Answer 5

Honestly since you are by yourself a lot and not busy talking your head off like the others in your classes you probably are a lot more focused on your studies and getting a lot more out of the classes you are taking.Beleave me in the years to come you will look back and see the benefits of this.But if you really want to make friends be more caring and out going to them ask them what they think about the days subject lessons ans ask if they wouldnt mind if you sat together and took notes during class or go out for group pizza and studying after school.But ultimatly it is the schooling that counts-Good luck and Cheer up you sound cool to me !!!

Answer 6

First of all dont be ashamed of who you are!!!!! Go to school and ignore what people say about you. Your number one priority is yourself. I was a loner in school as well and did fine. Just because you dont socialize doesnt make you a bad person. Do yourself a favor concentrate on your studies do a good job in school and take care of yourself! The rest will fall into place

Answer 7

You are being so hard on your self, how did you find out all the bad thing's they said about you, i was in law school here i live in los Angele's,i swear i had the worst panic attack, right before my bar exam and they called the ambulance cuz i past out infront about 1oo men, what i feel you are going through is home sickness,you have to let go and let god , make it simple, me and my head alone that is one bad neighborhood to be, you should be having fun ,so go have fun

Answer 8

You are very special! Whether people recognize that or not, is up to them. Don't view yourself through their imperfect eyes. Live your life, it is a gift from God. HE made you in HIS image, and you are very special to HIM. These people that you are around now, will be out of your life before you know, and life WILL go on! Have a great life!! Get back in there and do your best! Five years from now you'll look back in shock that you even cared what these people thought about you!

Good luck!!

Answer 9

Hi there,

I was sitting here in Palo Alto California thinking of my daughter who is very much like you. I thought I might tell you what I'm thinking about telling her. I hope this helps.

It sounds like you've done the most important thing - and that's to realize that everyone else's baggage isn't yours. Their need for superiority, their lack of self confidence, their lack of empathy - is not your problem. You already recognize that you're studying in a student 'bubble" right now. Life on the outside is SOOOO much more normal.

So until you can get to "real life" try to do these things for yourself….empower yourself…believe in yourself:

•Don’t fall into the trap of believing that your entire self-esteem hinges on how you look. Don't miss the inner beauty that's more than skin deep in yourself and in others.

•Think about what you're good at and what you enjoy, and build on those abilities. Take pride in new skills you develop and talents you have. Share what you can do with others.

•Exercise! You'll relieve stress, and be healthier and happier.

•Try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself. When you catch yourself being too critical, counter it by saying something positive about yourself.

•Take pride in your opinions and ideas - and don't be afraid to voice them.

•Each day, write down three things about yourself that make you happy.

•Set goals. Think about what you'd like to accomplish, then make a plan for how to do it. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress. If you realize that you're unhappy with something about yourself that you can change, then start today. If it's something you can't change (like your height), then start to work toward loving yourself the way you are.

•Beware the perfectionist! Are you expecting the impossible? It's good to aim high, but your goals for yourself should be within reach.

•Make a contribution. Tutor a classmate who's having trouble, help clean up your neighborhood, participate in a walk-a-thon for a good cause, the list goes on. Feeling like you're making a difference can do wonders for feeling so good about yourself.

•Have fun - enjoy spending time with the people you care about and doing the things you love. SHARE THE JOY!

Love yourself…feel good about yourself and your accomplishments. It’s your differences that make you unique. And by sharing all these wonderful things you have…you build deep, lasting relationships with family and friends.

Answer 10

sweetie, don't let people's words stop you from getting your education I believe you can do it! and nothings wrong with you i had a couple anxiety attacks ad other issues and i still made it, so remember what i told you believe yourself and dont worry what others think becuase maybe you can help make a big diffrence in the world! so go get your education, and good luck!