I'm a 44 year old single mom very depressed with no energy left.?

Question

I have 3 teenage kids and I know my lack of motovation is not good for them to see.This is not the person I am. I need to get past this because it has been going on for over a year. Help!!

Answer 1

GoodGirl '62 U have my 40-ish pity. Three teens enuf 2 make any 1 depressed! I'm that way b-ing single & have No kids, job or friends.

Answer 2

Despite what some misinformed people may think, you cannot will yourself out of depression. It's a disorder of the brain. For some reason, your brain is working against you right now--giving you this new "lack of motivation." It's not a character flaw. I hope you'll seek treatment for yourself. If it's too much for you to do by yourself, ask a friend or one of your parents to help you. Sometimes setting up and getting to a doctor's appointment can be extremely hard when you're depressed. In the meantime, can someone come to stay with you and help in the home? If you had any other medical condition, of course you'd have help. Consider asking someone close to you. Take care.

PS Consider that by getting help for yourself, you'll be teaching your children the proper way to take care of depression.

Answer 3

Well you have made the first step girlfriend, you recognized you have a problem, now you have to set goals for yourself. There is life after divorce. I was married 17 years and divorced mother of two. I was divorced 17 years and got married again last year. Here is how I handled it and I hope it helps you. After I stopped my self pity party I said well girl you have two choices either continue with the self pity or get over yourself. So I started writing down goals and crossing them off as I did them, small goals at first. Then I kept doing it, write it down cross it off, before I knew it I stopped with the self pity and was accomplishing life again without a man. I did it for 17 years, then I met my second and last husband. I am 53, and if I can do it, so can you. Make up your mind that this is going to make you stronger not kill you. Do a little more every day and take some time to write out those small goals, then start looking for bigger goals, your kids need to see that you are strong for yourself and for them. Good luck and God bless you and your children. You can do this I know you can!

Answer 4

Whatever has been going on has obviously impacted your life big time. I suggest seeing a mental health counsellor to help sort out whatever that is bugging you. Depression is very hard to overcome, I've went through it, and it took a couple of years of counselling and some meds to help myself get through that. I know that I don't personally know you or your beliefs, but seeking professionally help should be the best way to go at this point. Before your depression spirals downwards even further. You may not believe in taking antidepressants, however just having "talk therapy" will help. Talking is the best way of healing.

Answer 5

I know exactly what you are going through. I have 2 kids myself and I felt that way after I had my second child. It sounds like a mild form of depression. I would go to your doctor or health nurse and talk to them about how you are feeling. I was nervous to do that at first. But now Im so glad that I did. I was dealing with depression and they put me on anti-depressants and it has changed my life. I have more engery, Im not crying for no reason, I want to be with my kids, I am myself again. talk to you doctor and figure out whats going on. Trust me, dont leave it for too long. It will only get worse. And sometimes its too hard to recover on your own without medication. I tried. Good Luck and I hope this helped you a least a little.

Answer 6

Hi love , I have a 2 groups just for what your going through, if you want some help and friendship, by all means contact me and I will give you the source to where you can find me on the web with others like us, yes I am a sufferer as well and that is why I started these groups to help others and then in turn help myself inside by caring for people and their feeling , get a hold of me my sweets!
hugs barbra aka babs or daisy dreamer xxxx
Keep your chin up there is help out there !

Answer 7

You should definately try to find something to lighten up your life? No husband? Don't worry, go out and have fun with some friends - Go see a movie and catch up with an old friend. When the weather finally heats up go out and do some garden work.

I'm sure a lot of people are in your exact situation: just keep your head up and I'm sure there will be some sunshine coming into your life.

Answer 8

May be a little bit of depression setting in. It is a good sign that you notice it is happening. Maybe you need a little bit of alone time to figure things out and to relax. If you can afford it, it doesn't hurt to ask a professional.Three teenage kids can drain the strongest of people.

Answer 9

you sound like my mom. im a teenager, and shes pretty much like you. it's really hard and if your kids are in the ages of 13 or older, they might understand. find something you want to do, and set your heart on it. some weekends keep everyone in and go to a movie together or just fastfood and blockbuster and talk to them. motivation is hard to find but no one in the world can help you, cause its something you need alot of heart for. Your kids need you, sometimes being down i nthe dumps is okay, but lighten up. Life is way to short to be depressed all the time. Seriously. All the time you spend being sad can you find ways to make yourself happy...IF ONLY YA TRY. good luck.

Answer 10

Maybe You Should Seek Professional Help Since Its Been Going on For awhile now