I have a serious crush on my manager. I think about him all of the time and I don't know what to do.?

Question

I'm 24-yrs-old & it's been 3 yrs since I've been in a relationship. I got married when I was 20 & divorced a year later because he was unfaithful. Since then I've been living a single & celibate lifestyle. I 've been very happy and I basically made peace with the fact that I may never fall in love again. But in Dec. when I graduated from college, I met the guy who is now my manager. He was recruiting acct majors for the firm he works for. From the moment I saw him, I was turned on. In Jan. I started working for this acct firm and I was surprised to find out that this same man who I was attracted to was now going to be my manager and we were going to be working very close together. It's very distracting because I've been having all kinds of fantasies about him. It's to the point where I can't be around him without wanting to show him how I feel. If I let him know and he doesn't feel the same I'll have to quit, period. But if he feels the same I'm nervous of what comes next. Help

Answer 1

Easy answer, leave it at fantasizing. Don't put yourself or him in a position that could, and likely would, result in the loss of your employment as well as damage your reputations in the market place. Sometimes it's easier for us to want someone we know it would be risky to be with, once you've done it, the thrill just seems to go away. Please think about it, it really isn't worth the sacrafices you would have to make, nor would it be fair to lure him into making a back decision.

Answer 2

uhm, hate to tell you, but almost everytime you get involved with a coworker, something goes wrong and then you have to quit anyway. so either way youre kinda screwed. but just tell him how you feel, if he doesnt feel the same, dont quit, you'll make him feel bad, just get over it. let what happens happens...you cant change it and quiting wont make anything better.

Answer 3

> well... if he is single and you are single.. why not??!! but be sure to know the person first before thinking of anything else.. you don't want yo end up like your last relationship do you? just get to know himmore.. :)