ive just had a falling out with my dad and my mam took his side even though he was in the wrong what should i do should i go to them or wait for them to come to me were a really close family and it wasnt my fault my dad said it was his fault
2007-02-18 12:34:51 · 15 answers · asked by smiley 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that since you already know that he has admitted that it was his fault but has not apologized to you, then why hold a grudge towards him and your mom? He was at wrong and your mother was too because she took his side of something that he did wrong. Your mother was a witness to something your dad did, but she was too weak to stand up for what is right.
I think that you should go to the both of them and tell them how you feel. That you feel terrible from something that you didn't do, but the fact that you feel terrible because you have two parents who you have trusted and looked up to, and that are not willing to come to their daughter to apologize to, for what he has done. Tell them, that you are sorry for what has happened and you just want it to be like it was before. Tell them that you remember them teaching you as growing up that you should always apologize to someone if you have done something wrong to hurt them.
If your father or mother doesn't apologize to you, then that will show you that they are either upset or that they are holding a grudge or it could be just pride.
But no matter what has happened, always forgive and respect them because they are still your dad and mom. And people do make mistakes!
2007-02-18 13:11:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it really depends why you fell out if you are that close to each other just leave it for a couple of days and what ever has been said or done will be forgot. Time out for a couple of days wont hurt anybody beleive me i am going through it with my partner. In your mom and dads eyes you are their son/daughter and at the end of the day they will forgive and forget. I am 30 yrs old and have had some right arguments with my parents and we were a close family and i used to do what i have suggested and it was okay. Parents just get a bit angry sometimes they dont mean it its just a way of making you understand and by ticking you off for a while makes them feel better. I do hope this was okay for you and good look
2007-02-18 20:59:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have already answered your own question. Draw your family together as quickly as you humanly can. The sooner the better. Today if at all possible. You have but one father and you will never forgive yourself in the long run if you drag this out. You are too smart for that. Go give him a big hug and remember what really matters and tell him how much you love him and be sure you remember to hug your mother also and tell her the same thing. Being right is nowhere near as important as having your family together the way it should be. Think on these things. Best to you, always. - Chris!
2007-02-18 21:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to your dad, don't wait for him to come to you. Every family has their problems, yours is no different. Tell dad how much you love him and give him a hug. Don't let this get in the way of a close family, life goes by so fast and you should take every opportunity to make things right again, even if you know the other person is in the wrong. Remember, God loves each and everyone of us no matter what mistakes we make in this life.
2007-02-18 20:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that you were a close family, and your dad already said that it was his fault, so my honey, go back with a lovely smile to both of them and say: We were a good family, and if i can get these good days to the family back , then here i am, life is short, and all this doesn't worth it, life is a bout living, sharing and forgiving , we all do mistakes. let's forget all what happened and open a new page.
you can celebrate this my dear :)
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2007-02-18 23:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lonely Lone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a falling out with my dad. We didn't speak for 1 1/2 yrs. It was a really hard time. He admitted that it was his fault but I just let it go. I went to him and told him how much I appreciated everything he did for me and how much I loved him. We agreed to disagree on things and not let stuff come between us. Believe me, there is a lot we could fight about, but we love each other too much to let things cheat us out of a good relationship with each other. We have a great history. Just reflect on that.
2007-02-18 20:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by kikigeorgie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that you were a really close family? Forgive and forget. Be a bigger person and go to your parents. Old people are a bit stubborn; but they love you. Trust me. Hug and smile.
2007-02-18 21:33:26 · answer #7 · answered by childofGod 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go home darling u have only 1 mam and 1 dad and they love you no matter what blood is thicker than water? take care hun?
2007-02-18 20:54:40 · answer #8 · answered by biggillyone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you only have a dad one time in life....look at it that way...my mother and her father haven't spoken in 2 years because of a falling out and now we have found out he has cancer...not saying this will happen to you...but I'm sure your dad really loves you and it was a misunderstanding....just give him a call....
2007-02-18 20:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by alicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let things cool down and then go talk to them CALMLY. tell them you love them and you are sorry for the fight but don't tell them your sorry for what you fought about if it wasn't your fault. you need to find a better way to communicate as a family.
2007-02-18 20:45:49 · answer #10 · answered by Charlee S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋