Do you men feel intimidated when a girl asks you out or gives you her number? Or what about if they are self driven or make more money.....I wanna know and if you do like all these characteristics why is it so hard for you guys to approach?
2007-02-18 12:32:00 · 5 answers · asked by Lauren_Ann20 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One might think that men are simple and easy to understand. Not so. Men might complain and moan about the challenges of getting a girl's attention and profess their desire to have a girl who comes to them, but at the same time, men enjoy the "chase" and may be put off by a girl coming on too strong.
There is no magic solution that will work for any and every guy you want to ask out. But as a general strategy, I would recommend showing interest while still being coy and playful. Make eye contact and smile, that's the first trick. Not a big cheesy psycho-girl grin, but a cute, demure, alluring smile.
Don't stare, just make eye contact and flirt a bit with your eyes. If he responds the same way, yet doesn't seem likely to make a move, then you can probably ramp things up a bit. How to go about that probably depends on the scenario. If he's alone and in a park, for example, you might be able to strike up a conversation. If he's with his friends, that's not going to happen.
If he is with his friends, try to judge the situation. Do you think the guy will feel good if you walked up and whispered "call me" in his ear while passing him your number in front of his buddies? (most guys would like this) If it doesn't seem like that kind of gathering, you'll need to think of a better way.
If it's someone you already know, as opposed to the 'stranger' scenarios I described above, you're probably pretty safe bringing up the idea of going out.
Personally, I like it when a girl shows interest. It makes things a lot easier. As an example, I once commented on basically a complete stranger's name being pretty. She responded by saying I had really nice eyes. That was probably the first time a girl I didn't know made a comment like that. I really liked it. She turned out to be a very wonderful girl, who I am currently still dating. She often takes the initiative whenever we're together. I find it to be a turn-on.
I would even respond well to a girl asking me out, if I felt an attraction to her. As long as it was a casual request, like "hey, you want to call me sometime?" or "hey, want to go out sometime?". If a girl said "hey, you want to go the opera with me?" I would be turned off because the request was too specific.
In summary, here are the quick points:
- Show interest
- Ask them out casually
- Don't be too aggressive, let them still be "the man"
- Show obvious enjoyment to his "moves" (provided you actually enjoy them)
This will work for most men, I believe.
Most men won't have a problem with a girl being self-driven, so long as you don't come off as being single-minded. If a guy feels the only way you can have a relationship together is if HE is as driven as YOU, then there might be a problem.
I don't recommend discussing money until you're far enough along in the relationship to where it won't matter how much you make. In general, quite a few guys will feel at least somewhat inferior if they know you make more than them.
Good luck!
2007-02-19 22:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by wa-webguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is modern time.....some men may feel intimidated by a forward woman or else may feel "her strong successful type" may not be interested in him, so fail to ask her out for fear of rejection or being made a fool of. Money issues can make a man feel less able to be the stereo-typed supporter or spender on a date that may be sub par for the gals standards.
If he/she link emotionally and on a mature level, the monetary earning should not interfere initially in a relationship. As time goes on and they discover each other, an understanding is needed and love may conquer all. Remember:Opposites do attract!
Guys are macho and feel that they are the dominant ones when it comes to starting a relationship for the most part. How would it be for a guy to tell his male friends..."She picked me up...?" Pretty ego deflating....some may feel it is flattering to be "hit" on by someone they felt they never could have a chance with.
On the other side, if you feel like you want a bad boy and to dominate the man with your superiority, you may be along for a rough ride or love the bad side of you outside of the business/work world. I've seen respectable teachers with motorcycle/drinking free-spirits and strong corporate women with down to earth homebody/9-5 guys there to please their lady.....
Hope this helped..... Have a wonderful day!!! ....and go for it girl!!!
2007-02-19 10:15:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sammyleggs222 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like to be superior, if you make more money than a guy then that will unconsciously make him feel less of a man, this is the same case with a girl asking a guy out, it makes a man think that she does this with all the men she likes.. Not my situation but a lot of guys are this way, others are not so don't judge all guys the same
2007-02-18 20:40:45 · answer #3 · answered by Danny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one word
yeh.....
2007-02-18 20:40:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
2007-02-18 20:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋