My girlfriend recently broke up with me, and because we were friends first we decided to remain friends. Whenever i talk to her i feel great but as soon as I am done talking or hanging out with her i feel really crappy. She has been through a lot (multiple brain surgeries) and I was there to help her through her depression. She recently told me that she "Felt weird" when we hung out. Is it stupid to try to remain friends with her if It only makes me feel crappy. There is nothing i want more than to remain friends with her but I still have feelings for her and I know that if i dont talk to her i will feel even worse than i do now. please help.
2007-02-18 12:31:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
It is fairly natural to feel upset and a little depressed after a breakup but it should not be long lasting. If this girl matters so much to you, it's important that you remember that you want what makes her satisfied and at this point it seems that she is only interested in being friends with you.
If spending too much time with or around her makes you uneasy and upset, try to limit your time together and keep your conversations easy going and simple. Don't end your friendship altogether because this may leave you feeling regretful.
At this point, it is important to move on. You seem very determined to maintain your friendship, so keep it on a reasonable level. Occupy yourself doing things you love and be around people that make you happy such as other friends and your family. Don't try to rush into another relationship just because you want to be in love again. Be patient.
Don't let your depression get the best of you. If you're feeling extremely depressed, talk to somebody. Friends and family are great shoulders to lean on, and if you must, try a counselor.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-02-18 12:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by Laurie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dark Helmet. I am going through a similar situation. My ex-boyfriend wants to be just friends and I still have feelings for him. I also feel crappy when we hang out the phone. I think the best thing to do is to live separate lives. Since we would always be in love with these people and they would not with us. However is your choice to do what you think is appropiate. If you feel that you can be friends with her and not suffer try keeping being friends. But remember there is a bunch of nice people out there that we could go out and meet. Argentox2@yahoo.com
2007-02-18 14:01:32 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're grieving a loss....just as if someone dear to you died. People typically go through four stages of grief: denial, bargaining, anger, and finally acceptance.
It may take weeks or months for you to recover but you will. Talk to a counselor or someone you trust. Keep active and eat healthy. Don't drink alcohol or use drugs to lessen the pain. See your doctor if you have severe feelings of depression.
2007-02-18 12:36:06 · answer #3 · answered by Scott 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:56:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I felt the same way when me and my boyfriend broke up, it is normal, but at the same time it's not. If you nedd to go to a counsler or a best friend who understands. This helped me and i got better after a while.........so see if it works for you!
2007-02-18 12:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by jessicamarie93@sbcglobal.net 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darke Helme; Your entire world is TOO narrow!
Take a long-awaited holiday (without even telling her
you are taking, such).
Meet [a new] girl; while you are away: -and never look back!
2007-02-18 12:37:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal but perhaps you being there for her help a lots with her depression. Perhaps this why you feel the way you do becuase you are a great asset to her healing.
2007-02-18 12:36:31 · answer #7 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she says it feels weird, then she is kinda uncomfortable with it too. you need to move on. you probably arent going to take it well when your hanging out and she meets someone else, so do yourself a favor, and cut the ties.
2007-02-18 12:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its ok to be depressed but don,t stay there to long this is just a throught but maybe you should be more then friends if she makes you feel better when you are with her.
2007-02-18 12:36:33 · answer #9 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DO BELIEVE THAT IT IS PERFECTLY NORMAL TO FEEL DOWN SINCE YOU STATED THAT SHE JUST RECENTLY BROKE IT OFF.HOWEVER,I DONT THINK ITS THE FACT THAT BEING AROUND HER IS WHATS DOING IT! I THINK IT HAS MORE TO DO WITH THE FACT THAT IT S WHEN YOUR NOT AROUND HER. I THINK YOU MISS HER, AND STILL CARE FOR HER DEEPLY! GIVE IT TIME. IT GETS BETTER, BELEIVE ME. I HOPE I COULD HELP YOU .
2007-02-18 12:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by blooeyezz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋