how can i get my 16yr old to care about school? Have tried everything short of throwing him threw a window.?

Answer 1

Oh my goodness. I hope that you don't really think that "throwing him through a window" or negativity towards him will help him to WANT schooling. Try getting help from his school. They might have support for you and will probably be able to give you some really great advice. I have prayed for you and your family.

Answer 2

Take all his things away put in storage. Clean out the refridgerator and don't let him have anything except for bread and water. When he brings home good grades, then he can eat good food. If nothing else motivates a person, food always will. When he complains that you're a horrible parent for taking away his things and his food, tell him that it takes and education and a job to buy things or you starve to death.

It's harsh, but it's life. Your 16 year old might think everyone owes him a living and self sufficiency isn't necessary. Someday, you might not be there for him.

Answer 3

you can't force you child to care. you tell him, when he is not educated, all his friends graduate first, he stays back, he can't get a job, because he has no education, and he can't go to college, and when he is 18 he is cut off, that might motivate him. then later there is always JOBCORP. YOU TELL HIM, AS OF 18 HE IS OUT OF THE HOUSE AND CUT OFF, IF HE SHOWS NO MOTIVATION, EITHER THAT TAKE HIM TO A HOMELESS SHELTER, ON THE SLY SO HE CAN SEE WHAT NO MOTIVATION LEADS TO. PEOPLE ARE NOT ALWAYS HOMELESS DUE TO FAULTS OF THEIR OWN BUT ASK HIM DOES HE WANT TO END UP THERE, OR BOOT CAMP?

Answer 4

I would show him people who didnt care about high school and people who did and he should notice the differance in how they are living

Answer 5

You can't force a person to learn. If he doesn't want to learn, he won't, it doesn't matter what age. BUT, if you can show him good enough reasons WHY learning is important, then he'll probably come around.

What is he interested in? Does he want to move out and live on his own as soon as he possibly can? Explain to him that in order to do that he has to be able to make money, and minimum wage jobs are not going to be enough to make that happen.

Explain to him that knowledge is power, and no one can ever take that away from you.

If he thinks school is all a waste of time and it's total BS, then explain to him that he just needs to know how to play the game. 99% of real-world survival skills is knowing how to play someone's game. Not because you want to, but because you need to get something out of the deal. In this case, it's a stupid piece of paper that says he passed. So tell him to play the game until he gets his stupid little piece of paper and then he's free.

What worked for me? I didn't wan't to be stuck in the white-trash cycle my family was in, living from paycheck to paycheck. I saw how fun that was, and i wanted something better for myself. I wanted the freedom to have money to blow on useless crap. I wanted to afford a car that wasn't always breaking down. I wanted a nice house and nice things to put in it. Minimum wage will not get you those nice things.

All I learned in high school was how to BS my way through college. Everything I really want to know I can just look it up on the internet. But I knew I needed that stupid piece of paper saying I finished school. Yeah it's not easy and it's hard and it isn't any fun, but once you're done with it you can get a REAL job, make salary, have flexible hours, vacation pay, health benefits, a nice house and a nice car. It was a long hard road out of school, but I made it, and it was totally worth it.

Find out what he's interested in, maybe that's the problem. What does he want to do for a living? Have him talk to someone who does that and he can ask them how to get there.

I know a 13 year old who's living with her mom. They fight all the time over stupid little things, as if being 13 wasn't hard enough already. This 13 year old doesn't like school, but she sees it as her way out. She knows that if she does well in school, she can go to college and get a job that will take her far away from her jerk mother.

Find out what he wants in life, and explain to him how school will get him there. Tell him he doesn't have to like it, he just has to play the game long enough to get that stupid, overpriced piece of paper and he's free to have a life of luxury. See if that works, because "I said so" doesn't work on teenagers, you have to explain things to them like people, because they ARE people, and speak in a language they can understand.

Answer 6

He has to care about school

Answer 7

well you can make him see how important it is for wat ever he try to do for his future. School is worse then you think. But you cant make him. sorry...

Answer 8

Send him to BOOTCAMP!!!!