i wanted a break cause he's clingy and now i'm totally breaking up with him
i'd still like to be his friend but now he's guilt tripping me about the worst heartbreak ever and i've done all this stuff but he still loves me and that he bought me something he can't return and IDK any advice? i kinda need it now
2007-02-18 12:16:42 · 11 answers · asked by Tam T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that women really should quit falling for this stuff. By the way, I'm not a clingy person, but am experiencing the same situation with my girlfriend. She is great, but always thinks that I'm cheating on her, though I haven't even entertained that thought. Your ex is obviously insecure, if this is all of the story. Be kind, but frank, and tell him that you still like him as a friend, but he is suffocating you. Explain that if he wants any shot at you in the future, he should give you space. This will work seriously, even though you have stated that you will not get back with him. It will buy you some time and he will eventually get over it. You should surely feel free to see other people also.You can give him some b.s. terminology about a holding stage or whatever or be blunt. But do not let him guilt trip you, because if he does, he is the ******.
2007-02-18 12:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i think of clingy is slightly significant, yet no longer while that's in extra or obsessing. 20 calls an afternoon is purely too plenty. 2-3 is a robust volume. tell him which you like him plenty, yet that each and all and sundry of his calls are initiating to get no longer straight forward considering you are able to no longer relax in any respect for the duration of the day. purely be certain you tell him how plenty you care approximately him, and how plenty you like talking to him. Its purely which you have been getting under pressure. :)
2016-10-15 23:28:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a very clingy bf, and well I broke up with him and he keeps chasing after me. Its your life, who cares about him, hes overprotective and clingy u dont like that and he can't do anything about it. Ik it hurts but u dont want to go through life pretending to be somthing ur not. Hope that helps
2007-02-18 12:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No amount of reassurance can satisfy a clingy and insecure person. Now he is trying to manipulate you through guilt to either get back with him or to feel sorry for him.
You probably feel tired of dealing with his insecurity and his energy draining antics. Ending the relationship sounds like something you really needed to do for your peace of mind.
You are not responsible for his feelings. He is. If he chooses to feel sorry for himself, that's his business. Taking care of yourself is your business. If he is unable to treat you with respect and keeps hassling you or trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty, you may decide to stop seeing him as a friend. Manipulation is abusive and disrespectful.
Kind regards
2007-02-18 12:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get RID of him......quick...right now as we speak...and when they buy you stuff when it is about over...yah we are familiar with that game....Honey it is too late for that..been there done that...get rid of him. I had a clingy person recently..I kinda liked him but..after we went out two times he wanted to be with me and said he loved me..NNNNOOOO and he dosen't get it when I ignore 36 phonecalls in 6 days.......what is there not to get?? If he can't return it..that is not your problem.........this is a sneaky manipulative way to keep you.
2007-02-18 12:25:50 · answer #5 · answered by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, drop hints to your bf that you need some space. If he still doesn't get the point then tell him you need your personal space but don't try to be too straight foward about it. Tell him you guys are NOT going out.
2007-02-18 12:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by shorty 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just leave him. any guy who guilt trips you is just a headache. but most definitely dont go out with him again just to make him happy. if he cant get over it then say goodbye, because he'll just be trouble for you.
2007-02-18 12:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by Love Doctor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
eh, just lose him. He's being ridiculous for buying you things...his problem not yours...you just needed a break but now he's blowing it out of proportion! GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-18 12:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by sarajanicew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just play it slow... explain that he needs to keep his distance. you will still like him, but make sure he knows hes being too clingy
2007-02-18 12:20:18 · answer #9 · answered by Haley :] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him and just explain your feelings have changed.
It doesn't sound like you can be friends because he still has feelings for you.
2007-02-18 12:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋