Parents...How do you discipline your kids so they grow up NOT REBELLIOUS?

Answer 1

start when they are young, believe it or not a child as young as two knows the difference between yes and no, it all depends on your tone of voice and how you react. If they do something you tell them not to and you in a "sing-song" voice tell them no then they will do it again, if you raise your voice slightly and startle them they will associate the wrong thing with the raised voice.

Most of all be consistent. I have two kids ages 12 and 7 and they have been raised from very little when mommy and daddy say no we mean it.

Set rules that are age appropriate then as the kids grow then the rules need to change with the age of the child, also as they get older give them responsibility--chores, teach them that every action no matter what it is has a result.

Again be consistent I can't say that enough and remember you're the adult and they are the child, you are in charge and what you say goes.

Don't let them run the house, once a child learns that they had the run of the house you'll lose control and not get it back.

Answer 2

Children are always going to be rebellious...you simply have to pick your battles. You set rules in the very beginning, when they are babies and you don't negotiate. As they get older and want to take on more and more responsiblity for themselves you allow them to do so. Things like their school work should be THEIR responsiblity past the second or third grade. If they fail they will simply have to repeat that grade...the would isn't going to end because of it. You allow them to make decisions in clothing, hair, make up styles (it makes no sense to stand at the front door arguing over what your kid is wearing as the bus drives by, forcing YOU to take the child to school although YOU have to be at work.). Believe me the school WILL call you if they feel what your child is wearing just isn't appropriate. From the very beginning limit time spent watching television, playing video games, time spent on the computer and NONE of these things should be in the bedrooms. Make bedtimes a reasonable hour, between 9 and 11 for 9 through 16 and make getting up and ready in the morning THEIR responsibility...this goes back to the school call LOL. Also realize that your children are going to expierement, I haven't known a teen who didn't including myself, which is probably why I didn't have a problem with the rebelliousness. Lastly, learn to enjoy EVERY stage of your child's growth...it only comes around once and if you're busy yelling and screaming you're going to miss all the fun stuff.

Answer 3

Do not spoil them by giving them everything they want (or think they need). Teach them the value of a dollar. Talk to them A LOT. Listen to them A LOT. When you do discipline them, make sure they know you are trying to TEACH them something and are doing it out of love. Some people don't don't believe in spanking. Well, I do, but it depends on the child and the circumstances. I have one that is 20 and one that is 17 - - - - totally opposite and I had to discipline them differently, but they both have turned out great.

Answer 4

Yeah, good luck with that. Find a method, and you'll become one of the richest people alive. The best path to take is arm your child with as much knowledge as possible. Teach them right from wrong, and hope that even if they ARE rebellious, that they make good decisions.

Answer 5

EVERYONE rebels in some way, even adults. You do not want to be disappointed in what your kids have done, but feel they are rebelling. To a certain extent, you must set rules, but the best way to "discipline" and nip rebelling in the bud is to NOT set our expectations so high that a child feels they are unreachable. YES, parents, this involves TALKING with our children, and LISTENING to what they have to say. (not just hearing them talk, mind you, but LISTENING). If you would like them to have a certain behavior, but they are forgetful or don't feel they can accomplish it, then phase the behavior in slowly with steps they DO feel they can accomplish. Once that becomes a habit, then add something a little bit extra in. Take it slowly, and be respectful of their differing opinion. They are becoming adults, and will not think exactly like you do.

Answer 6

i imagine it relies upon on the way you set up guidelines. If that is not any you are able to not attempt this because I say so then yeah. yet in case you keep your requests life like and clarify why your doing what you do then i imagine there is more beneficial of a probability they are going to listen. All youngsters are going to rebellion to an particular degree. you basically ought to p.c.. your battles.

Answer 7

treat them like people, not little kids. Be fair and explain why they can't do something. Talk to them, don't nag.

Be firm with them. Stick to your guns and don't wimp out.

Let them know that you are the parent, not a buddy. You can't prevent rebellion but it starts being a parent when they are little.

They must earn trust. They can loose trust but they can earn it back. If they can't live by the family rules, they can choose to move out when they are 18.

Pick your battles - what is really important. (Spaghetti straps were OK but a skimpy bikini was out.)

Most important, LOVE THEM!!!

We are now friends with our adult children.

Answer 8

slap a few time across the face hard anytime they rebel or do somthing bad. make them cry dont feel bad or they will use it to there advantage. u cant get in trouble by the law. that is disicple if you like break there bones and stuff thats child abuse so dont worry. after a awhile they wont even dream of rebelling.

Answer 9

Depends on their age. For my kids (6, 4 & 3), I have to sit down and talk reasonable to them. Sometimes time out for them when they misbehave. 3 yr old for 3 minutes in a timeout corner, 4 year old for 4minutes. Yelling and spanking is not helping. find time to talk to them is very important. Explain each situation for them and let them make their own decisions. They have to live up to their consequences.

Answer 10

Good luck! The best way to discipline a child-is to teach the child. How? By setting the example. Each year of a child, they become more independant. A little at a time. Mutual respect is a huge help as well. Letting them make small decisions to start with. Like toddlers-to let them choose an outfit to wear for the day. Things like that. Also, as they get older, giving them some responsibilities around the house-keeping their room clean-a weekly allowance, helping with cooking (excellent way to teach them how to cook, let them help you). Mutual Resepct is the most important thing-showing them how to respect you, by respecting them as people first. Discipline means to teach. Not punish. Someone asked me-did Jesus hit His disciples? No He did not. He taught them. By the way, please, as a parent, don't lecture your child. My mother could verbally reprimand us kids within a sentence or two. We kids were taught with mutual respect. and Not put down. We were raised being encouraged to be who we were supposed to be-the good side. One thing-rebellion-can be small or big, depending on how you raise your children. As teens, I would like you to please think back to your teen years. When you were a teen, did you not want to be more independant than you were? My parents, along with the mutual respect, taught us, by example: they wanted (expected deep down) for us to let them know what friend we were going out with (and met the friend first) and at least met the mom. When going out, who with, where to, doing what (movies, etc.), when to expect to be back home by. Who all was going with. Yet, on the other hand, they did the same back with me. When they were going out for an evening, or running errands, we were told who, where, when back, etc. I greatly appreciated that. Communication is another important factor. I wish you the best. Take care.