Can someone help me out my parents just broke up and....?

Question

My dad went away to Florida and I guess my mom and him were talking on the phone and decided to brake up. When my mom told me it sort of felt like I was dreaming but I wasn't. NOw my mom is going out with my neighbor and it is really starting to get me going. And since my dad is gone I have to do a lot around the house my brother too but he hasn't helped much. Now I get mad and scream at him and what ever else makes me mad. Sometimes I get so mad I feel like I'm gonna cry. I'm 13 and I think it is really starting to make myself feel more like a man but I really just want a nice happy life but I feel when my dad returns everything is going to get worse can you help me please!

Answer 1

Don't blame yourself about your parent's break up because it's not your fault.Sometimes this fault thing is the source of hatred for children when their parents get separated.If it's okay with her,talk to your mom about the way you feel.Don't be mad at your brother because both of you are undergoing the same hardships,you should instead be supportive of each other.Don't pressure yourself to do all the chores in the house, just do what you can.Just hang on and pray,make friends.God bless!

Answer 2

May parents split when I was about 4. I lived with my dad and step-mom. I didn't even see my real mom for like 10 years so my step-mom became like my mom. Then when I was 12 almost 13 my dad ans step-mom were getting a divorce. I was "angry at the world" too. My best piece of advice is to find an adult that is not involved in your parents life that you can really talk too. I had 2. I would never gotten through it without them. Also, protect your brother the best you can. I am sure it is hard on him too. I was the oldest and had a younger brother and sister. Anytime things got tough I tried to figure out a way to make sure I would stay close to my brother and sister. It really helped. My sister andI fought all the time before that. Now we are good friends.

I wish you blessings. I have prayed for you and your family.

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear about that and you are obviously hurting. Have you talked to your mom or dad about your feelings? You also need family counseling as well. It's too bad your mom is seeing theneighbor so soon but don't be mad at her if she needs a friend to help her through a tough time, especially if he is not the cause of the break up. Talk to the school counselor and maybe they could get you some counseling for yourself. Bless you son.

Answer 4

O my, sorry to hear about your parents' split. Anyway, just remind yourself that everyone deserves to find their own happiness. If your mom and dad can't find theirs with each other, then they should have the chance to look for it wherever. And you deserve to find your happiness and peace of mind too, and you can not do that by letting your anger get the better of you. This is it buddy, the real test. It's okay to get mad, but you need to find a better outlet for it and not turn it all towards your brother or other people for that matter. We all have responsibilities, the sooner we face them, the sooner they'll get done. And the more time we have to do what we really want, right?

So just stand up, discuss the situation with your parents, and try to pull a smile. You'll get by, promise. Most importantly, pray, it really works.

Answer 5

It's going to be a huge change for you, but coming from someone who's a child of divorce herself there's nothing you can do about it. Your mom shouldnt shoulder you with a lot of things at your age such as constantly watching your brother because she wants to go out she needs to keep in mind that you're not a baby sitter on call and that she needs to raise her child. Some women do that when they start dating again they forget that they got children at home and shoulder things on their older child or children and that's not right at all. Whatever problems your parents have don't get involved because that's only going to make you feel worse. Your mom and dad made the choice to end their relationship mutually so I would begin to understand that they had their reasons for not staying together.

Answer 6

Really there is nothing that can change this one. I know what it is like to see your parents brake up, my parents did for a while. My dad stormed out at like 4 in the morning and checked into a hotel. he was gone for a while. and it was hard. i missed him. Many of the hard things that dad used to do around the house, us girls had to do, it was hard. My dad was showing interest in this other lady,like i already didn't have enough stress, it was like torture. believe me, I have been there before. Just support your parents,and work as hard as you can for them. Tell you brother that he has to get up off his butt and help around too. my parents did eventually get back together. And the lady my dad liked, eventually faded.Even though that might not happen with your situation, look at it this way,
"you do not have to listen to them arguing anymore.!!

Answer 7

My parents separated when i was 15. It hurts for a while but you will get used to it. As you get older and have relationships of your own you,ll understand that people can and do grow apart. Be strong and show your parents you can be mature about it. Its not going to be easy for them either. Keep you chin up :-)

Answer 8

I know how it feels exept your lucky i was so young i couldn't handle it i wanted to die i was 7 its been 3 years i hate my moms bf but i got over it email me ill help you through everything :)