I feel really guilty. On Saturday night i went out drinking with all my mates, who are all guys. We ended finishing the night at one of our houses and one of my mates invited a girl over to join us. We played a game were we where all in circle and we took it in turn to roll a pair of dice and choose the person we wanted to play with. One of di tells the body area, with nothing really personal, and the other di the action. Throughout the game i was cautious not to choose the girl because I didnt want to do anything against my gf (2mnth). Anyway the girl that was there chose me a couple of times and she ended up kissing me on the lips quik once, both had our mouths closed. Also I had to nibble her thigh at another point. At the time these incidents occurd i was very drunk and know that that was no excuse but also know if i hadnt been drunk i wudn't have kissed her. I now dont know what to do, i want to tell my gf but jst dont really no how or when, also is what iv done really bad or not?
2007-02-18 11:55:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say be honest with her,explain it to her the same way you have explained it to all of us reader's.What you done isn't considerd cheating but it's awfully damn close,I think she will be hurt and upset even when you tell her but you can not have a relationship with her based upon lie's either.so just sit down with her, I'm answering this being a female and from my eye's I wouldn't want you to try and butter thing's up,just tell her and explain to her that it wont happen again.good luck and best of wishes to you and your's.
2007-02-18 12:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that because you have a girlfriend you can't live and have fun. Why do you allow this woman/girl or whatever so much power over your life? If it meant that much regret to you, you could have just chosen not to participate in the game. Now you're crucifying yourself over really nothing but having a good time with your mates.
2007-02-18 20:00:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I were your girl, Honestly, I would consider that cheating. Even if you were drunk. It would make me think that I have to worry every time you go out. Being drunk would not be an excuse. So Best bet is to not tell her, kuz it could end up in a break up, or you really breaking her heart. Good luck. Best to keep your mouth shut.
2007-02-18 20:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you tell her before someone else does. That tends to make it a lot worse, hearing it from some stranger. All you can do is hope for the best. And if not, chalk it up to stupidity, and don't get caught in the same predicament again. But if she cares about you and trusts you then you may be able to get pass this.
2007-02-18 20:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay. IF i was in that situation. And im a girl soo...yeah. But what i'd do...Is take her to a quiet place. Perhaps her/your room. Or take her out. And tell her, tell her your sorry. Say you were drunk but thats still no excuse like u said. And tell her you regret everything. And if she still reacts horribly. Try calling her the next day. To apologize again. If she forgives you. CHERISH IT HONEY. Cause thats ur last chance!
2007-02-18 20:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Janina N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you know it could've been worse, like you could've ended up sleeping with the girl or something, but I think that you should definately tell your girlfriend. It's better to let it all out rather than having it eat at you for a while. Hopefully she'll understand. Good luck!
2007-02-18 20:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's bad and its not but either way you have to tell her. One day one of your friends may mention something about it and then she will be a lot angrier that you didn't tell her before. I would say the safest thing is to just tell her now so it doesn't come back worse later. And honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship so try not to hide it from her.
2007-02-18 20:01:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..you've given into peer pressure to get involved in a silly but basically harmless game. I doubt it would do you any good to tell your girlfriend ~ it would hurt her, even if you explained that you didn't want to play and you never chose the girl..but were a "victim". Forget about it...avoid getting involved in similar games in the future and get on with being happy with your girlfriend.
2007-02-18 20:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by gill s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your gf immediately. What you did isn't horrid, but keeping it from her isn't kewl and would likely cause her to be more upset with you down the road than your foolish drunken behavior.
And let this be a lesson to you...no, alcohol isn't an excuse. You should've not participated in the game at all and you knew it going in.
2007-02-18 20:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was not truly bad so i would keep it inside because your gal will just be hurt for something you already know was wrong,,,and remember that next time you roll out with your mates to go home after the club so your not in that position again good luck
2007-02-18 20:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by tiffanyh2323 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋