My boyfriend's room is a disaster and we were talking about cleaning it together but we never got around to it and this weekend while he was at work I told him I would clean his room for him. He was fine with it. So Saturday I spend like 5 hours cleaning his room and bathroom with his mom help. He says thanks and all that stuff then Sunday morning he calls me up while I'm working and FREAKS OUT on me saying I stole and hid his wallet on him (I've been trying to get him to quit smoking but hiding his ID and stuff) and saying "why did you even clean my room? to go through my things? to snoop around?" And that wasn't my intentions at all and I told him that. I NEVER looked or read ANYTHING. All I did was put his important papers and stuff together so it would be easier to find cause he's always losing important things (ie: $500 cheques, bank card, visa, etc) so I thought maybe by putting it together it would be easier for him. He won't apologize. Don't know why. I don't know what to do!!!
2007-02-18 11:45:29 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh yeah, by the way, he found his wallet near his computer desk - exactly where he left it. I just feel like he's always blaming me for stuff he does wrong. Am I overreacting? Or should he apologize? Should I not talk to him and wait for him to talk to me? Cause I don't want to run to him and say sorry because I never did anything! This may seem silly but I feel I am owed an apology because I NEVER touched his wallet.. he's just too lazy to actually look for it.
2007-02-18 11:49:27 · update #1
Yea, he should apologize.
I'm a guy and we are hard headed and that is the exact reason he won't apologize he knows he is wrong and admitting it will make him feel worse than letting you feel bad. And if he has something to hide, that is a hint that maybe something is to be hid or he just likes to overreact some guys are like that.
2007-02-18 11:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by mychal1216km 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you told him or not, it wasn't up to you to clean his room. Nor was it his mommy's.
Understand that the way his room looks is how your house will look unless you come to some agreement; like he can live in his room as he wants & you stay out while the rest of the house stays clean. Or you will be spending your life cleaning up after 'your child'.
The wallet wasn't the issue here. He was lashing out because you invaded his private space.
You were wrong & he didn't believe you'd actually do it. When feelings calm down, you need to talk. And you're just a GF not a finacee??? That gives you even less right.
2007-02-18 11:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No do not apologise to him. He gave you the go ahead to clean his room so why is he chucking a hissy fit??. Wait for him to crawl to you. and next time don't clean anything for him let him live in a pig sty. that way he can't blame you for taking his stuff. How long have you guys been together, he doesn't trust you and thinks your a theif who want to be with someone like that. Tell him to grow up and stop accusing you of things and blaming everything on you be strong.
2007-02-18 11:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never saw his wallet while cleaning the room, simply let him know that you have no idea where it would be, u dont know where he might of misplaced it, and you never saw it. IF he doesnt want to believe you then thats his problem, not yours. Ignore him till he wisens up or finds his wallet and feels like an idiot. If he never does, then screw him, do u realy need a guy who would accuse you of stealing etc. in your life?
2007-02-18 11:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by SN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not apologize...he should. You did him a favor, and then he has the gall to accuse you of doing something you didn't do. I would tell him, if that's how much you trust me, then why are we even together? He should be responsible enough to take care of his own things, and clean his own room. You do realize that his sloppiness and accusatory behavior isn't going change if you marry him, right?
2007-02-18 11:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by sassy_395 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of enjoying the room clean and admitting he was a slob- he's focusing on the negative to take away the fact that he's a slob. Tell him he would know where his stuff was if he put it away.I'd dump him you didnt do anything wrong and he's being a jerk.
2007-02-18 11:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell his mother since she helped you clean his room and he is being a real jerk, never do anything to help him let hijm take care of it himself since he is so upset. And does he have something to hide since he said you were snooping through his stuff. Tell him to grow up because you need a real man not a spoiled kid
2007-02-18 13:46:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him exactly what you just told us.
Did he find his wallet? If not maybe go over and help him find it.
DOn't apologize though, you didnt do anything wrong. he was ok with you cleaning his room.
2007-02-18 11:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you treat a big boy like a big baby by cleaning his room with his mommy, he's going to act like a big baby. I'd tell him to grow up and stop living like a slob.
2007-02-18 11:48:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like he has something to hide! You did NOTHING wrong! You were just being sweet and thinking of him. But I seriosly think that he's trying to hide something from you and I'd look into it a bit more.
2007-02-18 11:49:23 · answer #10 · answered by WiccaWoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋