Help! my girlfriend's parents are going to kill me?

Question

I am 14 years old. been with the same girl since i was 7 years old. We both really love each other. She is 14 years old also. 2 months ago, I had the most memorable moment with her (made love), and now she is pregnant. Yeah, I used a condom properly. I don't want to leave her but her parents are going to kill me. I'm sure her parents won't let me continue seeing her anymore but I love her so much. She feels the same way.

Yeah, I known her since when she was 4 years old, our parents were friends.

Answer 1

what? you are only 14? geez... well better face the consequences of your actions.. do you really think they will kill you? i dont think so.. they might get mad... but not kill ..

oh yeah.. better change condom brand

Answer 2

K this is from a woman that had a kid at 16. Yeah yeah every one can act surprised and yell at u and tell u things like what is wrong with u and where were ur parents but thats not gonna help now is it?
Ok first go get a blood test and make sure that she is pregnant before u guys start freaking out. U can usually get his done at a Family Planning clinic and they'll do it for free and without her parents having to find out.
Second if she is pregnant I'm sure that her parents will still allow u to see her. Well thats if they dont make her get an abortion... but thats up to the both of u.
Oh and u might not have worn the condem right if she pregnant but then again it might have broke. Next time use a spermaside along with the condem and tell her to get on some type of birth control again u can get this at any family planning clinic without her parnets having to find out.

****I am not telling u to keep u having sex with this girl from ur parents!! They should know about it but like any teenager u guys probably wont tell. So this is the best advise i can give.

Oh and I'm still with my sons father and have dated sense we were 12. It happens.

BUT dont be an *** and leave her now. If u were man enough to stick it in her then be man enough to stick it out with her. Thats the only yelling I have for u.

Answer 3

OMG! 14 YEARS OLD! Freshmen in High School! First off, yes, her parents will be furious. They won't kill you, but they won't let you see her anymore. The baby most likely should be set to adoption. Sad, but true. That's TOO young to have a kid. Your child needs to be set for adopting. You 2 are only freshmen, and
can't raise a child. You still have 3 years of High School. So, maybe you should just move on, and be friends with her. I'm sorry but it has to happen. Good Luck.

Answer 4

The most mature thing you could do is-sit down with both of your parents and tell them togethor. This will show them that you know that you made a mistake and you need there help to get through this. The longer you wait, the more mad they will be when you tell them. You also need to realize that when you make the decision to bring another human being into this world that you have to put that baby first. You havent even began to live yet and now you are going to be forced to grow up. You should take everything that your parents say into consideration because they are the ones who will be raising this child. You are not even old enough to have a job yet. If you were adult enough to "make love" you should be adult enough to talk to her parents and face your responsibilities.

Answer 5

There's only two options: break up or become a new dad.

1. The parents would probably try to get you in jail or something if you broke up, so that option wouldn't end thinks happily.

2. If you want to become a dad to your new baby, the parents might actually not be so tough on you. You want wwhat's best for your girlfriend right? So take your parental responsibility and her parents may start to appreciate you. That rarely happens nowadays and things can turn up if you have enough nerve to make a change.

Answer 6

um, wont they be more mad if you dump her? Understandably you are scared...You are young. I got pregnant when I was 15. I was scared and I felt alone. Dont make her feel this way. You two need to sit both of your sets of parents down and come out and tell them. You need to do this ASAP because shes gonna need prenatal care. Dont leave this all on her, she didnt get in this situation alone. Tell them what you guys want. adoption, abortion, raise the baby and have a list of reasons why you want this option and how it will work out. Be prepared for them to be upset, and maybe say things they dont mean. If you both are just too scared, sit down together and write out letters to give to them. More now than ever, you need to be by her side.She does deserve that much, right? I raised my son and couldnt imagine my life without him. His birth dad isnt around but im married now(at 21, but got married at 19) and my husband and him are great together. good luck.Start those lists or letters tonight!

Answer 7

Well, considering the fact that you are now going to be a "baby daddy", your girlfriend's parents are going to HAVE to get used to seeing you around, unless you aren't planning to be in the child's life. Or if the parents make your girlfriend have an abortion or give the kid up for adoption. You need to be thinking about how you are going to support this child you *may* be having. And how you plan on NOT having any additional children until you are emotionally, physically, and financially ready.

Answer 8

I know how that is. I'm a 13 yr. old with a kid. If this helps be commited and get your education. Keep your head up this is a big step in life. You have to take it. I had to learn it the hard way. I have a job, still in school, and taking care of this kid. Stay with her through every step of the way. Never let go of hope.

Answer 9

This is a very tough dilemma. I think since you and your girlfriend love each other, you should support the baby and stay together. Also, you need to talk to your girlfriend's parents and discuss calmly how much you love their daughter. But think about this..... are you ready for the responsibility to support a baby? Good luck with your decision.

Answer 10

I would try to talk to her parents. You said you've been with her for seven years, i would think her parents would know by now that she is dating you. Things happen for a reason. My advise to you is to support her all the way. You say you love her, then be with her. I'm sure the problem will be solved. Be more careful. At your age things could be complicated dealing with this problem, but i'm sure their will be a solution. Good Luck!

Answer 11

SHAME ON YOU!!!
you're 14 and having kids!
both your kids and you will be going to the pediatricians!
and also SHAME ON YOU for even THINKING about leaving her at a time like this!
you need to grow up and face the consequences!
talk to both sets of parents at the same time and discuss what you plan to do
if you really "love" her hen how can you even think about leaving her?!
you need to stay there and deal with the problem that you made.
youre not 7 anymore,you can't leave the mess and run and hide for your parents to find and fix later!
they can't fix this!
this is your problem and you need to deal with it and show your gf that you really DO care!
if you really love her then why are you having sex this young anyway?!
pregnancy is ALWAYS a possibility even if you use(as you said you did) a condemn(or any kind of birth control!)
birth control can only REDUCE the risk of getting pregnant!
not eliminate it!

i hope you grow up soon, because your kid is going to need a father,not a little teenage boy who is afraid to face reality
Kay