I'm the joint custody parent of a boy (8) and girl (5). How do I get back out there working full time, living alone, and trying not to project the "used goods" moniker?
2007-02-18 11:39:47 · 7 answers · asked by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-18 11:47:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't label yourself !!
You are who you are, a divorced father of 2 shared custody children.( I do feel the need to throw this in.You and your ex must allow these children to love you both, and not be put in the middle by questions of the other & etc.Regardless of what you think of each other, never speak unkindly to that child about their other parent,it will damage the child now, and later in life will backfire on you. I have seen it happen, more then once.)
Back to your question~~~Take your children to Bible study & Church. There are many young women your age in these classes and they are there because they have found a better way. Take it from me, these classes are so interesting and such a great way to mix and get involved with the better things in life.
There was a time when we kind of dreaded Sundays, and now I can't believe it myself sometimes, but we live for and dedicate our weekends to Church and the family we have there.
Good luck to you and I have tried to be open, hope I helped~~~
Your question indicates a decent sort of person and so I find your term of used goods not very appealing. Please don't ever use that term again !!! We are all used goods, just like everyone is a sinner.
Brush yourself off, hold your head high & get er done~Tx.talk ! Jill
2007-02-18 20:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
43 and starting over isn't a bad thing.maybe you can find a job that you can work at while your children are in school,if the 5 yr old isnt in school yet maybe you can try finding a headstart near by for her to attend. Im not sure where your from but where im from they do have such thing's as after school studying you might also look into this for your 8 yr old,most headstarts are open till about 5pm so your 5 yr would be okay....this way if you can't get a job that you will be home by the time the kids get off from school you will be safe and so will they....just take your time darlin,things will work out :o) best wishes
2007-02-18 20:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by rebelicious_angel228 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it! I'm not sure where you start but maybe try filling out some applications for a job. I am going through a breakup of 7 years right now and I wasn't working and not used of living alone anymore..But I am pregnant and I know I have to make the most of it for my child...That is what you will have to do too! I am alot younger but it is still a huge change..Good Luck to you! I am sure you can do it.
2007-02-18 19:44:34 · answer #4 · answered by angelsdeath420 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get out and talk to people.
Good Luck
2007-02-18 19:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date someone like you.
lots of people like you off the opposite sex.
2007-02-18 19:44:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER talk about your ex wife. NEVER. It will make you look fresher.
2007-02-18 19:42:50 · answer #7 · answered by jacquie 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋