is there anyone that would love to meet there mum but carnt?

Question

i would love to see my real mum but i am frightened, she left me when me and my brother was 1 and 2 and we have never seen her since. i can say i dont want to see her i do but i want it on my terms is this wrong she toulded the courts when she left she new what life was all about and she was going to liv it i know there is two sides too every story so dont start going on before you answertwo side to every story so dont think i am a kid i am in my 30is to me i only judge me not her the judge did grant my dad full custardy for me and my brother saying he has never sin a case like it think on we are going back to 1974/5 this is a heart to heart question plz dont e=send any bull i am sorry but to me this is my life not a joke

Answer 1

Im meeting my real mom in 2 weeks. Ive met her once, 7 yrs ago and want to start having a relationship. You have to let the past go, thats the first step. Its hard as hell i understand. I was given away to my aunt and uncle that were both abusive, until i ran away when I was 18.we had no contact. Im flying her out to meet me and my 2 kids(husband is in Iraq but she can see pics)before you contact her, let the past go and agree with yourself that you will be starting over.Im sure deep down you miss her, Im sure she misses you. She just must not have been ready to be a mom. It took me having kids to understand how hard a job it is, and its really not for everybody. and not every woman knows that before they have kids.good luck on this journey.

Answer 2

I would like to tell you that I met my sister for the first time 3 years ago. I am 35 now. My mother had put her up for adoption 1 year before I was born because she was not able to properly take care of a child. Then she met my dad and they had me. My sisters father was also and abusive alcoholic.

I think you are totally right to want to meet her on your terms. Make sure that you have at least one friend and a few family around. Just make sure it's nobody that will be mean to her. She might be really different then she was then. My mom has really grown up since then. Also, I would never have gotten to meet my sister if she wouldn't have looked for her mom. Plus you want to know, if you have kids, what their family history is. Like does your moms family have a lot of heart attacks and high blood pressure and stuff. Then you can make sure they are more careful not to get that stuff.

Totally go for it! If you are a little scared that's normal. I wish you could talk to my sister. I know she would tell you to pray about it. Ask God to protect you. Good luck and may God bless you and your family.