Me And My Partner recently broke up and even when we were in a relationship he said he didnt want to have kids. I did want children but I did'nt bother about the matter much. I've told him about it and he's quite annoyed about it and he wants me to get an abortion as he is already into another relationship with a different woman , but i dont like the idea of abortion because I dont agree on it in my case. i dont think i will get rid of the baby anyway, but i'm not sure that i'd cope on my own. I will want children definately in the future anyway but now is'nt a good time as i'm still at university and i wouldnt want to quit just yet to look after this baby. Please Can Anybody help? i'm in a bit of a sticky situation!!!
2007-02-18 11:24:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Hun as a 23 year old mother of 2 I know what you are going through I am a single mother and it seems to take a toll on you. Does the University offer childcare? Single mothers can get quite a bit of help through the local department of social services. There is always adoption. There are hundreds of people out there that really want babies, but can't concieve. As for the ex boyfriend if he can do the deed he can support the baby. Having a baby is the woman's decision. You could take him to court for child support or you could attempt to have his parental rights withdrew. I hope I gave you some kind of help.
2007-02-18 11:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I hearing from you is that you are not ready to be a mom, but you don't want an abortion. If that is the case, then you should look into adoption. There are many couples who want a child. You will have full control of picking who will get your child and you can even request an open adoption. An open adoption can vary from the adoption parents sending pictures of the child as it grows or involvement in the child's life as the 'birth mother." You really need to follow your heart and do what is best for you. However, I disagree with making a guy pay child support for a child that he was clear that he did not want. Good luck!
2007-02-18 11:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by BritLdy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldnt have to quit. You just have to get childcare, the state will help you with that, and so will child support. Too bad for him, and thats sad hes annoyed cause hes going to be a daddy. This may not be a convientent situation for either of you, but you kinda hd to know this could be a possibility, right? You CAN do this-I had my son when I was 16 years old, no help from anybody. I finished school, Trade school and now in college. It may be hard to raise a kid, but its well worth it when they smile, say your name for the first time, giggle or laugh. It will all be okay...just start preparing now and tell your ex to budget out child support.
2007-02-18 11:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I think you should keep the baby because you can take care of her/him with child support or you can ask one of your relatives for help (money). But if you dont feel comfortable doing that, go to a doctor to have their opinion. But abortion or keeping the baby is your choice. Make the best decision!
2007-02-18 11:36:39 · answer #4 · answered by princess95331 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want the baby have the baby. I was in the same position as you a few years ago and now I have a wonderful child who is the light of my life.
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2007-02-20 08:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by twrites2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption.
If you do decide to keep it, you can go after your ex for child support. It's his kid and he should have to pay since he helped make it. In the future, if you got married and your husband wanted to adopt your child as his own, your ex could sign away his rights if he chose to do so.
2007-02-18 13:02:37 · answer #6 · answered by army_sister785 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby up for adoption. Don't you realize that there are hundreds of women in this world that wish that they could have a baby, but can't? Make somone happy and give your baby to a lady who wants one. It works best for you and the baby.
2007-02-18 11:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL I CAN TRULY UNDERSTAND WHAT UR GOING THROUGH. I JUST HAD MY EX BABY ON THE 9TH OF THIS MONTH . HE WANTED ME TO ABORT BUT IT WASNT IN MY HEART TOO. HIS IN ANOTHER RELATIONSHIP ALSO. I MEAN I WAS IN COLLEGE BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT. I DIDNT THINK I COULD COPE, BUT U KNOW WHAT.. I CAN AND SO CAN U. I DO PLAN TO FINISH SCHOOL WITH ONLINE CLASSES. I DO PLAN ON TAKING HIM TO CHILDSUPPORT. AND NOW THAT MY BABY BOY IS HERE I WOULDNT CHANGE A THING.....DO U NOW HOW MANY WOMEN DO THIS ALONE? U CAN DO IT.
ONCE YOUR BABY GETS HERE.. U'LL FEEL THE SAMEWAY
2007-02-18 11:46:09 · answer #8 · answered by smooth sailing34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing you could do is take child support out on him if he refuses to take care of the baby. i mean after all you can't fault him because if you knew it you shouldn't have done what is needed to make a baby.
2007-02-18 11:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by nikka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is your option
2007-02-18 22:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋