A friend of my fiance's called me last night, while he was very drunk, and told me that he had slept with her, on multiple occasions several months ago, while my fiance and I were still together but not yet engaged; he also said he'd been in a threesome with her and one of his friends. My fiance says he's crazy and he's full of it, but he says that he's got a video of the whole thing. I really want to just take my fiance's word for it; but part of me wants to see if there really is a video, and to see if there's any truth to what he's saying. I know that she isn't cheating on me now and definitely hasn't since before we got engaged; but i also know that she cheated on both of her previous boyfriends. What should i do?
2007-02-18 11:17:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get the supposed video from her friend. If he won't give it up or let you watch it, I say it dosn't exist, and he's just jealous of the situation. He was drunk and wanted to cause problems in your relationship with her.
If it does exist. Dump your her, and have no future contact with her or her friends in the future. You can do better. The next girl you talk with, make sure she isn't the cheating type, and has self respect for herself.
You know what they say, guys have no friends that are girls. They only have "girls they haven't slept with yet."
In the future, be extremely weary about the guys you let your girlfriend hang out with. For the reason stated above, and if she is a known cheater, it's just a bad mix.
2007-02-18 11:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she cheated on TWO previous boyfriends... I would take all precautions if I were you.
Does your friend stand by what he said while he's sober? Maybe he was drunk and didn't know what he was talking about.
In any case, cheating is wrong, whether you are engaged or just "boyfriend and girlfriend". You make it sound as if it was okay for her to cheat while she was your girl, because it doesn't count before getting the diamond ring.
If this is the way you think, what difference does it make if she cheated or not before you spent the money on the rock?
Anyway, I'd ask for the video, if your friend does not give it to you, that means he's full of it. On the other hand, you might find out with hard evidence.
2007-02-18 11:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would want to see the video if there is one. The mere fact that she cheated on the two guys before you is not good. Some people are just cheaters. Doesn't matter how good you are too them. Better to find out now that after you are married.......I would think. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-18 11:24:06 · answer #3 · answered by van 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you want to marry this girl and she may be your future wife one day, I would examine this problem real close. Usually when a person is drunk and they have something on their mind, they usually pull hidden secrets out from the heart. They tell things that they would never tell if they are sober. If he has proof such as a video then tell him "to bring it on." Maybe the guy isn't crazy after all. Let your conscience be your guide.
2007-02-18 11:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call his bluff and demand to see the video . odds are he isnt really your friend or he wouldve told you after the first time so as to save you from making a mistake. and if he is telling the truth you want to know so that you can dump them both and know for a fact that this hard life has some hard lessons that dont make you less than a man but more if you learn from your bruised ego as much or more as when fit as a fiddle.
2007-02-18 11:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by whatisthisallabout? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you want to see the video. If he shows you then you will know the truth. If you can't trust her don't get married, this is no way to start a marriage. Maybe she is being honest and this guy is just tying to break you guys up that could be another possibility. Figure it out and be sure before you get married.
2007-02-18 11:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing.
This is going to sound mean but you need to see if there really is a video, or find the truth out some other way. We both know that she wont tell you herself, so you need to do some investigating.
She cheated on you in the past, and it really sounds like she's doing it again.
All in all, you need to find the truth out one way or another.
2007-02-18 11:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tanya 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Did she cheat with you on a previous fiance? How do you know she's not cheating now? Look at the video. If it's her, break it off.
2007-02-18 11:23:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she cheated on her previous boyfriends...there's probably a good chance she'll cheat on you. I'm sorry, but it's like an addiction to some people. Find out if there's really a video and if she really cheated. Good luck!
2007-02-18 11:22:49 · answer #9 · answered by Virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just check out the video (as much as you are afraid), it will at least prove her 1) cheating 2) lying about not cheating! Then, my advise to you is if it is true....face to face confront her with what you know as the truth...and move on. Once a cheater, always a cheater. That's the truth!
2007-02-18 11:22:14 · answer #10 · answered by LARGE MARGE 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋