I am dating someone who I really like and I would like a relationship to come out of this. He is a kind and respectfull man but he is still a man. We have cuddled all night with no sexual anything once. The second time we fooled around a little too much but still no sex. I have only been on two dates with him but have been talking to him for about 5 mts off and on. I like him and I want to address this before things go to far. Should I talk to him about sex or what? I have not had to date in a long time. I am 30 and he is 37. We are adults but I just don't have experiance in this. I just got out of a long relationship. Please help if you can.
2007-02-18 11:15:20 · 14 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-02-18 11:20:38 · answer #1 · answered by mikeh_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to be able to express to him why you want to wait. How long you want to wait etc. If the guy doesn't have any strong convictions, it will be an expectation. The intimate times you have had with him will have served to lead him on.
I have a view on this and you can take it or leave it. When you have sex, you are giving yourself away. You are bonding yourself to the man. If the relationship breaks up, a part of you is ripped away. You are too valuable to do that. Maybe you need to take some time without a guy and get these issues straight. I believe in God. I believe He knows what is best. Look into God. He truly loves you.
2007-02-18 11:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Tumnus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up, you don't want to be having sex yet. Tell him you need time to adjust since you just got out of a serious relationship. And tell him you need a chance to really get to know each other. And yes, take some time to talk to him about sex, that way you're both more comfortable when the time comes.
2007-02-18 11:20:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with him. As they say honesty is the best policy. Don't lead him on let him know and tell him straight foward ASAP. I am sure he will respect your wishes and if he doesn't he is not the right guy for you. A relationship is about two people not just one so both people have to express their thoughts and feelings and communication is key to a successful relationship.
2007-02-18 11:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get to know the guy for at least 3 months and go on dating for a while before you are 100% sure of him. Then it is upto you to go forward. But be careful, because once a girl gives herself she loses all control of herself. She becomes emotional and men don't. So you should be frank with him and tell him that you are not ready for physical yet. Get to know him thoroughly! See in a family setting, see him with friends, see how he treats you for a while. If he pressures you when you not ready - then he is not the one for you.
2007-02-18 11:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by sweethoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront and honest with him. Let him know you really do like him and like spending time with him, but before the relationship becomes sexual, you would like to know him better. If he is as into you, then he will respect that. Hopefully he is the type of guy who wants to get to know you before you have sex as well.
Good Luck!
2007-02-18 11:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by Lynsey T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. Let him know gently that you would like to hold off on have a sexual encounter before you know where the relationship is actually going. If he is a real gentleman, he'll understand.
2007-02-18 11:19:38 · answer #7 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to just beup front with him about the whole situation becauseif not it is only going to come back up and bit you. Then if you dont he might think that you were leading him on andjust want to stop talking to you all together. If he really likes you he will understandif not you can find someone else better
2007-02-18 11:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY talk about it...you don't want to give him the brush off when he's making a move on you, especially since it sounds like y'all are quickly moving toward sex (intercourse).
Get this out in the open now, to avoid any misunderstandings. Let him know you are attracted to him, but want to hold off on actual sexual intercourse for now...maybe he does too (odd as that may sound)
2007-02-18 11:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-23 17:26:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, let a man tell you this: you're playing with fire by getting him all heated up and then not going farther. Play it wise until the relationship is solid...this means engagement....but stoking his coals then throwin' water on them is not right. Isn't that right, Babehart?? sugar, dear??
2007-02-18 11:19:38 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋