He's back....now what?

Question

The love of my life came back four months after leaving me. He wants us to start over. However, he wants changes in where we live and I am not sure I want to do this. I have an 8 yr old son whom I do not want to change school districts. He agreed, but still doesn't want to live in the house I lived in with my husband. He currently lives with a woman he no longer loves. I feel we can not work out a plan for the future if our situations stay as they are now. Am I being selfish in wanting him to get over his qualms with living here for now and then looking for a place of our own in due time. He left me once before to go back to this woman I mentioned above. I can not afford to watch him possibly leave again and me not afford the new place on my own, when I have a child to think about. I really do love him and believe he loves me, but isn't it time for him to make some concessions in the relationship?

Answer 1

not trying to be nothing but helpful,but re-read your post and see if you dont think you perhaps are letting him have his cake and eat it to(1) why leave you (2)what is the reason for coming back to you when he lives with another(3)why should you and your child be forced to uproot and move(4)if he left you once for her why wouldnt he do it again could it be possible he is just playing you for a change until he gets bored im not trying to hurt your feelings but your son deserves better,its obvious that you have thought he might leave again and you are by no means secure with him,dont give up you and your sons security its not even fair to your son....................good luck and God Bless

Answer 2

u r not being selfish. u have ur son to think about.make him understand tht u really luv him but r not comfortable with him living with the woman.if he luvs u he will understand.he has already left u before. be firm this time.compromise but not on something tht is important to u. u need to have a stable relationship becuase of ur son.