please help me. i dont know what to do about this guy.?

Question

i am 14.5 years old and hes 16. i am a freshman and hes a sophomore. 3 months ago i found out he likes me. i thought he was cute and wanted to get to know him better so i sent him a friend request on myspace. we instantly clicked and both liked each other. he could always make me laugh and was incredibly sweet to me. he wanted to go on a date with me but i told him about how my parants are strict and i wasnt allowed to date yet but i could have an in school relationship.he said it was ok and my parents rules wouldnt change his feelings for me. We are really shy around each other at school so mostly we talked on im. he was so nice. we used to talk late into the night and he woul keep saying he would ask me out but he was unsure. his friend told me that he wanted to ask me out but he was afraid he wouldnt see me enough outside of school. but he still liked me and he would always im me and he was amazing. one time he listed everything he likes about me.

and he told me that he first started liking me when he saw me in the hallway and i made eye contact with him and he thoguth i was relly cute.he even said love you 3 times. then he started being distant so i asked his frind wha was up and his friend said that he doesnt like me anymore and he said he said some stuff about me but he didnt tell me everything but one of the tihngs was i tried to get him to kiss me too much. then one time my friend went over to him to tell him i think hes a jerk and when she told him he said i dont even care about her anymore. but he immed me that day after school and was like so you think im an asshole? i miss him and still like him. but now he doesnt talk to me at all or look at me much and acts like he doesnt know me. and i found out he likes a new girl whose in his new class. he stopped liking me after he started taking that class. i am way better looking than that girl and i dont know what he sees in her.

on valentines day we had a snow day and he immed me and said happy valentines day. and the next day when we had school again he bought carnations and gave them to the girl he likes through her twin sister. and then there was a valentines dance and i heard he went and he slow danced with her and grinded with her and they danced a good amount. i cried when i heard abuot this. he broke my heart and doesnt even realize how much he has hurt me. and also i heard that that girl doesnt like him back but i dont know. What should I do? Is there any possibility he will like me again? and I told my mom about all of this and she felt so bad and said she was too strict and if I had told her about him before she would have let me talk on the phone with him and maybe go on dates with him. But now everything is ruined. What should i do? I really like him still and want him to like me back.

how did he move on so quickly and how could he say he doesnt care about me anymore?

i dont wanna keep imming him cuz i dont know if he wantes to talk to me. Why are guys so confusing? and i want him to know that i would be allowed to talk to him on the phone and stuff now but i think its too late

and i dont think he is a player or was trying to get in my pants. he is not like that becuase hes not perverted like mot guys. He wouldnt even kiss me. All he ever did was hug me

i dont know if he wants to talk to me cuz when i do im him he never really responds. like he'll say hi back and he wont really talk to me.

is it possible he may still have feelings for me but hes trying to forget aboutme becuase he thinks things between us wont work out?

Answer 1

Sweetie this boy doesn't want a girl who can't go on dates and hang out . Most likely his mind isn't on you it's whats in your pants . That's why it was easy for him to find another girl and she probably is aloud to got out with friends and pretty much do whatever . He did you a huge favor by moving on with someone else instead of trying to take advantage over you . Thank him when you see him .

Answer 2

I'm having flashbacks to Middle School and getting very very very thankful that those days are far far away. I won't presume to give you advice on how to deal with this guy, but I will tell you how to get through your teenage years with a few less scars. Okay, you're young, however you're not a kid. You're life and mind will change so much in the next few years that you'll feel as if you're in heaven one day and hell the next. Boys are well...boys. They're (unfortunately) mostly after the same thing. Sex. You have to make sure that the decisions you make are for youself and not for a guy you like. Because chances are, he'll break up with you, or who knows you may end up not liking him! I wish you all the luck and hope you stay true to yourself.

Answer 3

First of all, I think you should take a really deep breath. Calm down, everything will be fine! I know that it may not seem like that right now, but things WILL get better. I don't think you should waste so much energy on this boy. If he was willing to let you go without even a decent reason ( I mean, honestly...he didn't like you anymore because you wanted to kiss him?), then he obviously wasn't worth it. You're only 14! You have the rest of your life to meet someone awesome.
Go out with your friends, smile, and have fun! Boys like that aren't worth the time. (:

Answer 4

Because men are genetically programmed to be attracted to physical characteristics. "Drop dead gorgeous" is a matter of individual perception so many may think you are. Your picture certainly indicates you are a very attractive girl. At this age, the hormones are at very elevated levels in both sexes; males aren't interested in the personality, the "you", and won't be until they mature more. Eventually they do begin to understand that the physical attraction is only good for the first meeting and that the other person's intelligence, their ability to carry on a sensible conversation, their beliefs, the person inside the shell are what is most important. It will happen but you will be emotionally ahead of males for as much as the next 10 years. Enjoy your friends, delight in the male exception you may be lucky enough to encounter. When you are in your mid 20s (or perhaps before) you will realize that the "jerks" and "one-track-minds" have matured.

Answer 5

WOW, ITS SO LONG...tell u Stop IM him for a week. See what is his response. If he doesnt care at all. Give up on him. There are a lot of cute guys around. I think His just playing with your feelings. So, hope you could get on with your life and continue your studies.

Answer 6

If you truly love this guy then do what ever it takes to win him back tell him that you told your parents about him and there ok with you dating him. Tell him how you feel about him and that it hurts when you see him with this other girl. Tell him you still care about him. You need to tell him or else you will be holding this inside and no one will no this but you and your mom. The key to a good relationship is communication even if you are not in one romanitcally you guys need to communicate.

Answer 7

Honey im 12 1/2 and i have had that happened to me b4 are you jealous or something i dont know he cared hes just mad cause he cant get in your pants probably or you can keep trying im not sure what to tell ya

Answer 8

PLAYER. Hate to break it to you but that's what he is. You probably won't be able to get in a relationship with him but if you're that desperate, come on to him and he'll make out with you. Don't expect any faithfulness or real love though.


SORRY i sound like a bitcch but that's what happens. Don't feel too bad there's someone out there for you.

Answer 9

Awwwwoh.

That hurts to read.

I tell you what Ruby, this is alittle beyond an "answer" in my opinion.

I have alot to say and am willing to have alot to listen to.

if you want you can talk to me on instant messenger-

email me at [e-mail] and I will send you my screen name.

if not it's ok I just don't think this question deserves less than a conversation.

Rambo.

Answer 10

ok. you REALY need to move on, there are plenty of other guys out there and if he has moved on you should do the same. there is no point dwelling on the past. im 14 anda half aswell and have been in sort of the same situation, once they move on there is nothig you can do. thankyou for answering my question.