My girlfriend wanted to talk to me. She said it was very important and after she blew me off this morning I told her just to text me. This is what she sent me…..
"i don't love you. How can i love someone who has made me cry for the past two nights? Who has me in tears right now!! Who ignores me for two days straight? Who screams at me in the car till I'm in tears because they think I'm lying when I wasn't! How can i love you when i am never on your mind? While you are trying to meet other girls behind my back even after being with me for TWO YEARS. How can i love you when all I do is cry? When you don't care one single bit that i cry! I said i needed to talk to you and all you could do was tell me to text you. So I'm writing this HERE IT IS!! I wanted a valentines day with you...considering we couldn't do anything on Wednesday. I went out of my way to buy you gifts I knew you would like and you lie to me tell me you got me stuff when in reality YOU FORGOT! How can you forget about me?? Am I not that important to you? I don’t want to cry anymore over you. I don’t want to cry PERIOD! I just want to be HAPPY!! I got you one more thing for Valentines Day that I did not give you. I wanted to wait till our actual Valentines Day date which was supposed to be tomorrow. But I realize today that Monday is never going to come! So here is my note to you! Yes I’m crying! Yes I’m VERY VERY UPSET right now and yes I just want you to hold me in your arms and tell me everything is going to be ok. But today is the LAST DAY I will EVER cry over you!! Things will be ok with or without you in my life!
I think I REALLY REALLY HURT HER!!
-did I hurt her?? I had no intention of hurting her!! I don’t know what to do now!!
2007-02-18 10:55:58 · 13 answers · asked by Mike T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
after she said that i said
"I'm sorry i don't know what came over me when I yelled at you I'm a bad boyfriend."
she then text me back replying "that's all you can say huh?"
i said "i have to accept that you don't want me anymore. It's your decision"
she then reply back "No it's not that i don't want you it's that you do not want me and you've made it very clear."
-is it over?
did i really screw this one up??
edit: she called me and I asked her if she would like to talk after work...she said "i don't care" "You decide" i made her decide and she said "fine"....
-is this over for good?-
2007-02-18 10:56:55 · update #1
Edit some more: i saw her after work sat in her car and talked to her. She cried the ENTIRE TIME and told me how i hurt her. I told her the truth i don't REALIZE when I hurt her. It's true sometimes I DON'T!! I told her i didn't know what to do to make it up to her and that i realized tomorrow was supposed to be our "valentines day" but my guy friend was leaving tomorrow. I asked her to come Wednesday and I'd make it up to her. She shook her head said no started crying some more. I didn't know what to do so i said "i guess i should leave."
-is this over for good?-
she gave me one last chance....and i think i blew it....
2007-02-18 10:58:37 · update #2
Dude, you suck as a bf! You need to learn there are other people out there besides yourself and they deseve love and attention too. I hope she gets a real man fo rher next bf.
2007-02-18 11:01:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you just hurt her really bad . You should try and put her first at times . She feels lonely and she feels she is doing more in this relationship . Why don't you do something so romantic that you wouldn't even believe you are the one who thought about it . Think you should know your girl and what she would like . You need to place all the blame on you for now . Even if you think your right . If you don't want to loose her you better listen and go with the flow no excuses . GOOD LUCK !
2007-02-18 19:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does care, she wants you to stop acting like you have no idea whats going on. Stop playing games. Be a man, call her on the phone, in person, and talk to her. If you still want to be with her, explain why you have been acting like a jerk. SHOW her you are sorry, dont just say it, show up at her house with flowers, or a poem you wrote. Surprise her with a "date night" She shouldnt have to explain in detail what you need to do to make things right. And when your relationship is in jeopardy, if you really care you jump on a solution right away. If you cannot commit your time to his girl, then let her go, otherwise fix the problem and make sure she doesnt feel like this again. and ditch the texting when you are arguing. That is one of the most immature things people do with technology, I swear....
2007-02-18 19:03:44 · answer #3 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea you blew it big time.You sound like the type of person who goes a million miles a hour.I don't know if you can or if you want to fix this, but if it is unfix able LEARN FROM THIS!! Slow down and LISTEN and stop thinking only of yourself.How, can you not know tomorrow is Valentines day?Are you really that self absorbed? Stop and take a good long look at yourself.Perhaps you should stop being so self-centered and selfish.Sorry dude you blew it.
2007-02-18 19:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by little3nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparantly she is really hurt.. her text msg said it all.. people fall in love beacuse it gives them peace of mind and makes then feel cared for.. obviously, she doesn't feel neither happy nor cared about. what have you done to her to make her this frustrated? have you been going out with girls behind her back? what is it exactly you want from her?? if you don't want her, then leave her. full stop. If you want to be with her for the sake of being with someone, then you have to know she's not your slave. i don't know what she meant by "you accuse me of lying when im not", but apparently you have bad communicatoin and trust issues going on. do you love her? if you do, then why do you make her cry? it's her right to stand up to her feet and ask for respect. i'm not judging or blaming you, but you seem like, feeling guilty. right? i think she loves u but she doesn't want to. she wants to free herself from the bonds of tears and sadness which is every human being's right. if you love her, beg her forgivesness, promise to change and promise to treat her well.. and most importantly? DO treat her well.
2007-02-18 19:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by sara_s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think the question is,is it over. The real question is do you love her enought to fix whatever is going on with the both of you. Do you want to try hard enough to fix things? Or do you just want to face the facts that you may not have the same feelings she does.
2007-02-18 19:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Becca O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i can say is that you blew it. She gave you one more chance and you really did blow it. All i can say is you can try to give her a dozen of her favorite flowers ( If you know what they are). And write her a poem that comes from the heart. If she stills says no then i guess that's it. It is OVER. You were really cruel to her and you messed up on your own. Talk to her.
2007-02-18 19:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok DUH you hurt her but you may not know why. In case you did not know....women are insane. it may be that time of the month or it could be that you messed up her valentines day. She may just be going through a hard time at work or wherever. But i suggest you go to her house w/ a single red rose and apoligize deeply not jus t *im sorry* but *im sorry for hurting you i relise that ive been a bad bf and i will work harder to suit your needs* (graps her and stats to vigorsly make out) if that does not work im sorry some girls are just INSANE!!! ok so click on the link bleow please
2007-02-18 19:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Skittles#38 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U really did hurt her. U can fix it though, go over to see her and buy her as much gifts as u can. Kiss her and hold her. She might act like she doesnt want to but she does, so just apologize on ur knees and hold on to her.
2007-02-18 19:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by girlygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am very sorry to say this but you really screwed up and you are not going to forget this if you really want to be with her then do something really special and really romantic and pray to god that it works i wish you the best of luck^_^
2007-02-18 19:05:24 · answer #10 · answered by korinne kouture;; 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋