my boyfriend is a senior and i love him.he has never asked me to do anything with him because at the beginning of our relationship we talked and i told him that i didn't want to have sex until i get older and he said that he was fine with that.but the other day i heard him talking to his friends and they were teasing him because when he gets "blue balls" i won't help him.he got really mad and said that if they said anything to me that they would pay for it.he then told them about how our relationship is strictly platonic and that he would never want to make me feel pressured into doing stuff with him that i didn't want to do.but the way they were talking about "blue balls" makes them sound painful and i don't want him to be in pain.
so now i have 2 questions:
A.)what are blue balls?
and
B.) is there a way i can "help" him without having sex with him?
because, while i love him very much, i don't want to have sex yet.
thanks,
Kay
2007-02-18 10:49:32 · 4 answers · asked by Kay ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Blue balls occur when a guy doesn't masturbate.
The only way to help him would be for him to release the sprem. You dont have to have sex with him, all he needs to do is maturbate and he'll be fine.
2007-02-18 11:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by caring black guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to have sex to help your bf. Your bf can help himself in that area.
I am sure a male will explain to u what blue balls are.
However, i will give u a suggestion to possibly limit the chances of your bf suffering from this.
Perhaps when the two of you are alone, you limit your making out sessions to not so intimate kissing. Although it is nice to share that with him, its one of the reasons he is having trouble. He is getting sexually aroused and limiting your closeness and intimate contact will help him to remain focused.
He respects you and your wishes not to have sex. That is a true gentlemen and he will deal with it however he can. Let him respect you and dont change your views on remaining a virgin just because u feel he is suffering. He isnt. He has the cure for it, and he knows what that is. Stick to your beliefs hun. I applaud u for your high moral values.
Everything will be just fine. U will see.
Good luck to u.
2007-02-18 11:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how old are you and then if he is not pressuring you that is good and may mean he really likes you so dont worry about all the other guys because they dont mean anything. All you need to know about is you ARE making the right choice dont give in because you are special and no one else should matter.
he can take care of his blue balls you dont need to do anything about it.
2007-02-18 10:59:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend can help himself. If you made it clear to your boyfriend that you don' t want to have sex until your older and he's fine with it, his friends "opinion" doesn't matter. And your boyfriend doesn't need any "help". He can remedy his situation "himself". Don't ever feel that you need to help someone when it comes to sex. Stick to your decision. If someone truly cares for you they will wait, respect your choice, and NEVER will make you feel that you have to PROVE your feelings to them by having any type of sexual contact. And I applaud you for your decision!
2007-02-18 11:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by rencar32002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋