We have nearly been going out 5 months now. He has been quite open and honest about his dodgy past (drugs, drink, theiving etc...
) and i was quite satisfied that he had put it all behind him until today...
He got an email from an 'old friend' saying that he had just stolen a computer and wanted my bfs help to unlock it (give him passwords etc.... my bf isnt going to be touching or even seeing the computer himself) so this guy able to use/sell it.
Am I wrong in thinking that if his 'friend' gets caught and mentions it was my bf that helped him, that my bf would get into trouble too?
I would really like some help with this as it has caused a bit of an atmosphere between us today.
Serious answers only please.
2007-02-18 10:34:55 · 26 answers · asked by Unhinged.... 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think your bf could get in trouble if this pal was caught - if he's not touching it or anything then the pal would have no evidence that ur bf helped ie fingerprints.
Morally thou, its a bit iffy. If he was to help this guy then he's not putting the past behind himself, he's just being more choosey! I personally would be really disappointed that he's helping someone do something like that, but then thats me! Plus - if he does it once, what would stop him from doing it again or even getting more involved?
2007-02-18 10:41:19 · answer #1 · answered by keeley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right in every aspect. Try and convince your boyfriend NOT to get involved with this situation. If his "friend" gets caught, he might not be such a good friend and may mention your man's name.
If he doesn't listen, I would say that this "past" of his is always going to catch up with him. If he's not able to say no now, he's never going to be able to. Try everything you can to help him see that he's better than this and the man he is now is the man he should always be.
If he doesn't listen, well... then it's your choice if you want to be involved with that kind of a person. I'm sure he's a great guy... but people make mistakes that catch up with them. Not everyone is capable of changing.
2007-02-18 18:40:21 · answer #2 · answered by collegegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend could absolutely get into trouble with the authorities for helping. Just because he didn't see the computer or touch it, does not make him innocent of the crime. If he helped to "unlock" the computer with codes then that is a crime in itself and is punishable with jail time. If your bf is willing to risk going to jail again to help out and old friend, maybe he isn't worth being your boyfriend.
2007-02-18 18:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by butterflywndr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen this is the beginning of the more things to come...if goes on to help so be it you are not his momma and don't need to be!! Let him know how you feel and if he gives some weak line then you better think about how this can effect your future cuz it will draw you in and keep it real!! You want a respectful guy not some run around clown right?
2007-02-18 18:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
OK here's a serious answer, you just tell your Boyfriend that if he helps in the commission of a crime he will not just very likely end up in the hands of the police, but certainly out of your hands forever and there is NO WAY BACK for him, and stick to what you say to him, enough is enough, and anyway the jail he ends up in, will not be in the house next door to where you live but probably hundreds of miles away, but reality teaches you that it is a place where you can see lots of other losers like your 'ex'-boyfriend. let him go Honey, and find a new fish who isn't too quick to get himself 'fried'or even a new boyfriend for himself.
........... Tony M
2007-02-18 18:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by tony m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing to give support for an act of crime for which he was under no obligation or threat, then he will be prosecuted with his m8.
Sorry, tell ur bf that if he decides to put it all behind him, then he should stick to his word, otherwise there is really no point in keeping such a promise (despite what people say about promises).
2007-02-18 18:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can get in serious trouble . He needs to think again and realize people are using him . Tell him to stay away from people who can get him in deep trouble . GOOD LUCK !!!! He most likely didn't really want to do that he probably was excited to hear from a buddy he hasn't hear ed from in a long time and thought that was the only way to do so .
2007-02-18 18:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if his friend rats him out to reduce his sentance then yea your bf can get into trouble..though he didn't technical touch the computer his friend say he help him steal it.
You need to tell him to stay away from the old friend for away..I'm sure the owner of the computer turned it over to the cops already.
2007-02-18 18:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He knowingly 'Aided after the fact.'
Tell him you don't want him doing these dodgy dealings or having anything to do with criminal acts anymore.
If he truly loves you, he will stop it.
He cant help it if his dodgy mates contact him for help, but he can refuse to help them and stay on the straight and narrow.
I'd put this down to a one off, but if it happens again, then I would seriously consider your future with this guy.
2007-02-18 18:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by badassbiker1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he will be considered an partner in the crime. And you will be charged with knowing after the fact. If he is willing to do this then he isn't free of his past, and you need to get out before you end up in serious trouble, with them.
2007-02-18 18:39:12 · answer #10 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋