my bff was new and this was a few months ago but she told me she likes this guy but i like him to even before she came to my school and i havent told anyone that i liked him
my other friend liked the same guy as her and now she is not friends with either of us now. My friend is really nice but i dont know if i should tell her or just keep it to myself but she is someone i can truly trust and i just dont know what to do
i could just say to her when she talking about him"he is actually kind of cute"is that a good idea or not
2007-02-18 10:29:05 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is one of my friends (but not a close one )and he smiles at me all the time
2007-02-18 10:36:01 · update #1
There are way too many other guys around for you two to risk your friendship over this one. Talk to her about it- But I'd recommend neither of you date him. "Chicks before *****"
2007-02-18 10:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your suggestion is quite a good one. If you talk about the subject in a nice way and tell your friend your thoughts on the guy, then perhaps she will understand. The other thing to remember is that as you're not with the guy then it's open season as it were for him and so you had best be careful otherwise you could lose both of them. You could also speak to the guy and see who he likes most out of you and your friend ... but this could also cause problems. Hmmm is there anyone else that you like? You could try a date with him and one of his friends with you and your friend and see what happens from there. All the best with it.
2007-02-18 18:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa little one, you better let your homie now that yes you do and of this does break the friend well that's not cool!! cuz the saying goes; "guys come and go but true girlfriends are forever!!!" Yeah that is a good starting point to say to her, then you can both come to some terms and if one of you guys do get to date him. But always remember guys come and go plus, you have the next years of your life to really have a guy that yeah you'll be in love with.... Now It's way too soon to settle down for!
2007-02-18 18:37:15 · answer #3 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should go ahead and tell her that you have feelings for him. If she stops being your friend over a boy then, let her go. You need to tell her. Holding your feels inside of yourself is not really good. Because one day, when your at school, you'll see the boy that you liked and you bff together. Tell her that you like him and see what she says. Your other friend was not a very good friend bacause if she was then she wouldn't have stopped being ya'll friend over some boy. But, anyways i hope you make a good decision.
Good Luck!!
2007-02-18 18:43:20 · answer #4 · answered by Beautiful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep... Ur young but there is only 1 truth, everybody can have a piece of the truth but there is only 1! if u dint want 2 compete with her tell her the truth, maybe she will back down ,lol u got seniority. if u r going after him keep ur mouth shut, and if u get him u tell her u been there 2 long dont want 2 lose him r y'all friendship if shee get's him nothing 2 talk about y'all r fiends stay that way
2007-02-18 18:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by sitting_in_th3_cut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, me and my friend went through the same thing. we both started liking this guy at the same time. we both told each other, but we always were together. i never got mad at her for liking him, so i do think you should tell her. maybe like say shen shes talking about him or something: "umm i have to tell you something. I like BLANK too." if she is your super good friend she wont care and it wont hurt your friendship. if she doesnt talk to you anymore, then i guess she just isnt worth having a friendship with. thats what i would definitly do. Good Luck Chica!
2007-02-18 18:35:12 · answer #6 · answered by Kelsey T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because YOU like a guy doesn't mean that YOU own him. He has a right to decide who he likes and so does your friend. You don't get to dictate to everyone else their choices in life. Since you're not dating this guy or even talking to him she has every right to like him. I suggest you concentrate on other things than boys for awhile. You're obviously not mature enough for any type of relationship, you're not even mature enough for a friendship.
2007-02-18 18:33:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends do u have an on and off friends ship with her than if u do keep it to your self...but mabey you should just say that he is not the right guy for her or just say hey i kind of have feelings for this guy to mabey she would understand if she dosen't want to back off then she is not a true friend
HOPE THIS HELPS
2007-02-18 18:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by munozmariajose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you trust her,yes,you can tell her about your feelings for him.But before tell her something directly; that you like that man,ask questions to her.Questions as: what will you think If I would like this guy too?Then depending what she answer you,you can decide to tell her or not.Good luck.
2007-02-18 18:38:55 · answer #9 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend your interested in the guy and let him choose to see who hes interested in......
2007-02-18 18:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋