i cant stand him he is so rude and stupid i want him gone but thats not going to happen any time soon and i used to be anorexic but just got over that a few months ago. i just got over being obcessed with my body and now he calls me fat. god i hate him he wasnt joking either, im sure he wasnt joking. i AM fat =[ there went my dinner. ALL HIS FAULT.
2007-02-18 10:28:23 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my question wasnt for everybody to say "no your not fat" my question was asking WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO?! he lives in my house, i was her FIRST and i dont even want to look at him. he is a stupid drunk who drinks at least 3 beers every day and has a HUGE pot belly, but he tells me i am fat and other people tell me im fat at school, and ya know what, im starting to be obsessed with my weight again!! i just want to be 100 pounds and then i will be happy.
2007-02-18 10:36:21 · update #1
I heard it said once that professional fighter learn not to let their opponent see that they have hurt them. This is the reason why. Once they see you squirm, fear, pain, hurting, or distressed then that fighter will go for that area over and over again to break the other fighter down to win.
So my thoughts are from now on when ANYONE says something negative to you...look them straight in the eye and say "I like me and I like how I look". MEAN IT WITH EVERY FIBER OF YOUR BEING. The more you say it the more comfortable you will be when opportunities arise.
If you say it with convincing love and like of yourself, then I guarantee your step day and other will stop harassing you about your weight.
They might try to start downing you in another area but I am sure you will be stronger and have a great comeback.
Even if you don't have a comeback, just letting it roll off you and not bother you will have a serious affect on them because they can not get to you.
Best wishes...I understand what you are going through.
2007-02-18 10:49:06 · answer #1 · answered by ~Raspberry Tea~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you report him to your school counselor or someone at the children's welfare office?
That is child abuse. Mental abuse. You don't even have to tolerate that and even sit back and feel how much you do hate him. Let it be his problem and report him.
Your height and weight is not FAT. You are perfect. I am 5ft and I weight 100 lbs, and that is skinny. My son is 5'4 and he's 130 bls........And he is perfect.......... I think you might be a little thin if anything.
If you don't believe me, your doctor has a weight chart for your height. Call your nurse and make an appointment or just walk in and ask to see the chart. I am not joking when I say that you might be thin for your height.
But your weight is irrelevant here. Report him and get him out of your life once and for all. Turn the table around on him.
2007-02-18 18:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Lana817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOUR NOT FAT!!!!!!
Tell your step dad to grow up..Where is your mom when he is saying this to you?? If she was not there then be sure and tell her..You are just getting over being anorexic and him being an adult knowing what you have put your body through he knows better then saying things like that..He should be helping you instead of putting you down..You can print this and show him I am a step mom and I would never do stupid things to hurt any of my step children!!!
I am so sorry you have a step dad that is like that :(
2007-02-18 18:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by charmed4412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't listen to everything people say about you. Most of the time they are unhappy with their lives and have nothing better to do but put other people down. You need to be happy with yourself or you may do more damage than you ever thought. I stuggled with anorexia for over 7 years and my entire family called me fat when I was only 12 and it changed my life forever. I believed them and stopped eating and doing everything in my power not to ever be called fat again.
Here is a little of what I went through....
2007-02-18 18:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by t y 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you tried telling your mom what your stepdad's impact on you is? I am very sorry that your family is so unsupportive, that is the last thing you need.
What you need to do is surround yourself with people who support you and support you having a positive body image. You need to have a good friend you can call on whenever your stepdad is treating you badly. If you don't feel you have anyone to support you, try talking with your school counselor.
You know your stepdad doesn't have your best interests in mind. You need someone who cares about you to tell you the truth. Then, you will know who to believe and who to ignore.
2007-02-18 18:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by inkantra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to your mom about this, she should NOT allow him to talk to you that way, especially if you've had an eating disorder in the past.
But if she won't, please realize that you have to keep yourself healthy, and you know that not eating, or purging is not going to keep you healthy. I'm sure you know all the health risks involved with anorexia and bulemia, so I won't go into them here.
Obviously, you're not fat, I'm sure you're a very lovely girl. But, don't let his ignorance affect you in any way. If he calls you fat, just smile and ignore him, that will probably be the best way to get him to stop. Good luck!
2007-02-18 18:32:09 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not fat, not even by military standards.
He is miserable and does not know anyone else to place is anger and dislike of himself.
It is ashamed that he is living in the same house. This situation requires professional help if he is to remain in the house. You will have to sit down with your mother to have discussions that will allow her so see how this affects you.
I hope the best for you.
2007-02-18 18:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by wanttoknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That isn't fat for your height, ignore him and start saving money so you can move out at 18. Don't tell your parents you are saving it. Keep it a secret and when you are 18 get your own place. A small studio probably but you will be away from him.
2007-02-18 18:31:43 · answer #8 · answered by Pantherempress 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5'6 125 is not that fat at all. If you want to loose a few pounds, eat well and excorcize but your really not that big. It's pretty normal actually. Just don't obsess over it and tell you step dad he is an idiot and you don't like him telling you that bull.
2007-02-18 18:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5'6" and 125 lbs is not fat. I am 5'5" and weight 125 lbs and I am not fat by any stretch of the imagination.
Ignore your step dad. Seek help for your self image problems.
2007-02-18 18:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by MI 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋