Whats going on is this...
My best friend has spent the night at my house several times and every time we been up REALLY late talking. That is normal for us but the last three times hes spent the nite we have ended up making out going a little farther each time. Yesterday we went to almost having sex.
Problem is he has a girlfriend and he hasent dumped her yet even thouhg he has told me that he loves me.
Yes he loves me for real and yes I love him because he and I are one of those couples that every one sees and can tell they are meant to be together for ever.
What should I do and is this wrong? Yes he said that he plans on dumping his girlfriend SOON (like Tuseday soon).
2007-02-18 10:17:20 · 9 answers · asked by Chris's Baby Girl '07 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no he is not using me he just hasnt seen her that much latley and she is grounded so they cant talk on the phone so he hasnt had a chance to dump her
2007-02-18 10:39:50 · update #1
Don't do anything until he breaks it off with that other girl. Because then that would be considered cheating. Just wait until Tuesday night!
2007-02-18 10:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Ben H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then tell him that he can come back and stay up late, and all that - SOON (like Tuesday soon)!!!
What your doing might be wrong. But mostly it is silly! Because what harm will it do either of you to wait those moments till he makes SOON into NOW!!!
For one thing, it will make your chances of not being burnt a lot higher... And of course, it cant be said enough that the way he ends his former relationship will often make its way into your new relationship. If you guys cheat on his current gf, what are the chances that he wont do so on you.
So dont yield on this matter: Still have another girlfriend - no cake!
2007-02-18 10:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by the_02r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol...Okay, whatever...!
Seriously, though, for the sake of your own heart, get away from this loser. He'll tell you anything you want to hear to get into your pants, which is exactly why he's been spending the night at your house. He'll keep coming back and spending the night until he gets the goods. Suddenly, he won't be your best friend anymore-he'll have gotton what he wants.
Okay, think of it this way: What if instead of your "best friend" he was YOUR boyfriend spending the night at his "best friend's" house trying to get into HER pants by telling her that he "loves" her and is planning on dumping YOU as early as Tuesday?
Do you get the idea?
If he loves you so much, why doesn't he dump his girlfriend for you? At any rate, you know what kind of "friend" he is now, so I say, cut your losses and move on. If you have sex with this guy, you'll be more emotionally attached to him than ever. His feelings for you won't change. He'll likely choose the girl who gives him the more enjoyable sex or, he may just play both of you, like he is trying to do now.
Think with your head and not with your heart. If he truly "loved" you, he wouldn't want to be with another girl. He'd only want to be with you and YOU would be his girlfriend.
Good luck!
2007-02-18 10:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's an idea, Put yourself in his girlfriend's place. How would you feel if this were happening to you. I'm afraid the old addage of "what they don't know won't hurt them" is just not true. Eventually what you are doing will come back to you. If he is doing this to her, what makes you think that once you get with him, he won't do the same thing to you? I think you are both playing with fire.
2007-02-18 10:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by penelopejanepitstop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah there honey. you have got to talk to him about this. because if you dont, the world will be let loose and people will think you are some kind of boyfriend-stealer-skank kind of person. you shouldnt be making out with him in the first place. just come clean to him and tell him to break up with her if thats what he really wants.
2007-02-18 10:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by kb293 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a little wrong but alot of guy's say that but don't if he really love'd u he would have dump't her a long time ago it sound like he want some from u
2007-02-18 10:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop.
it's wrong on both of your parts.
wait until he breaks up with his girlfriend to continue your relationship, i mean put yourself into his girlfriends position.
how would you like it if this was all happening behind your back?
2007-02-18 10:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong on both your parts. don’t be surprised when he does the same thing to you the only difference will be you will be the one he is cheating on.
2007-02-18 10:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Male_42_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know that you will resume the relationship when he tell her the news & until then it would be wise to stop the closer than friends stuff.
2007-02-18 10:23:33 · answer #9 · answered by Lil Bit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋