what is your advice for someone who has feelings for your good friend but you know that he is married?

Question

I have a good friend and we are very comfortable around each other we talk everyday at least 2 to 3 times a day and we are in a leauge together all the sudden I have found having feeling for him but he is married and I don't want to be a home wrecker any advice.

Answer 1

I agree with the others who say you shouldn't talk to him as often as you do now. I'm sure it's difficult to suddenly turn off your feelings, so all I can say is that you deserve someone who will be available to devote his time and attention to you as his only woman. You owe it to yourself to avoid a partial relationship if it becomes more than platonic (and believe me, it would be just that - partial). A married man will not have the time to give you what you want and need.

Also remember his wife (and her family, and your friend's family, too). No one deserves to be cheated on, and I'm sure you wouldn't want to be cheated on either. Many people can and will get hurt, including yourself and your guy friend, and an affair is something you can't undo once it's done. *sigh* I'm going to go out on a limb here because I don't want you to make a mistake, so here it is - I pursued a married man, dated him, and he and his wife split up. I don't know if I caused it, but I'm sure I didn't help. I hurt a number of people, all of whom were innocent, including my mom and family, and guess what? It took me 11 YEARS to forgive the guy and myself (and we dated a mere 6 months). Obviously, it wasn't worth it. I'm not saying this could happen to you, but at least you see how serious this could be.

Allow the right man to come along, and then enjoy all the spoils, dear.

Answer 2

Dont do anything about it. I know its hard to not do anything about those feelings, but they come and go.

When you seem him with his wife look at what they have. See how poorly you would feel for wrecking it. Get to know her, then it won't be as tempting. I wouldn't suggest you stop being friends because then you'll just wonder "what could have been." Stay friends, but stay on the safe side. Don't get too close.

Show how much you care for him by not hurting he and his wife's relationship. Best of luck.

Answer 3

Stop thinking about this man, he obviously married this girl because he loves her; and if you seriously have feelings for this guy, let him have his girl, you should only want whats best for him. I know it's hard to face, but life is hard! You just need to find a free man who you have feelings for and he has feelings for you. You don't want to break up love, so just find another man to love! There is a soul mate for everyone, just find one thats not taken.

Answer 4

How would you feel if the "shoe" were on the other foot? And think about this, what type of person is a married man who would cheat on his lawfully wedded wife?

Answer 5

You already know what the answer is. Your friend is married, therefore off limits to you. End of story.

Answer 6

I would say stop talking to him so often. Start thinking about yourself and your own life. You do NOT want to be the other woman.

Answer 7

well, im going through a similar situation, except im the one who is dating and i know this girl who flirts with him a ton. you dont want to ruin your friendship with this guy, but you dont want to just not talk to him anymore. why dont you just cut down on the time you talk to him, or double date or if you do social things do them in big groups. also, dont flirt with him or overdo it, because his wife will notice (as i did)

Answer 8

stop talkin 2 him so much and get ur self a boyfriend so u can stop thinkin bout him

Answer 9

watch my best friends wedding

Answer 10

KEEP YOUR FEELINGS TO YOURSELF. HE IS MARRIED...FIND YOURSELF ONE TO CALL YOUR OWN!