My son's father and I are planning our wedding and would like to incorporate our son somehow into the wedding party. At the time of our wedding, he will be 18 months old. He is a little too young to be the ring bearer as he can't walk down the aisle on cue. Our flower girl will be almost 3 at the time, but we are not sure if she would be able to walk with him down the aisle and keep him focused should he get nervous or distracted, as they are cousins and my son tends not to listen to her. Would it be appropriate for him to be accompanied by one of my bridesmaids (which would also be one of his aunts, so someone he knows very well), as I have one more bridesmaid than my fiancé does groomsmen? Or are there any other jobs I can have my son do to be part of the wedding party?
2007-02-18 09:56:41 · 27 answers · asked by saguero728 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Our flower girl is sitting with her parents during the ceremony and my son will probably sit with my parents, since having them both at the altar during the ceremony will probably not be a good idea (as behavior in toddlers is unpredictable). So what to do with him while we say our vows is really not an issue.
2007-02-18 09:57:54 · update #1
Is your dad giving you away? Have your son hold your other hand and "give you away" too!!! Adorable!
2007-02-18 09:59:57 · answer #1 · answered by Heidi B 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I was at a wedding where the ring bearer couldn't have been much older than your son, maybe 2 at the most. They had him in a wagon, pulled by the flower girls. The only thing with this, was they had 2 girls. 1 was around 7, the other was about 4 or 5. You realize your 3 year old flower girl is iffy as well, right? I would either try to get an older child in that mix (even a 5 or 6 year old), or have the flower girl and ring bearer (your son) escorted down the aisle by either a bridesmaid or groomsman, preferably a parent of one of the kids. Good luck!
2007-02-18 10:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son had no words at 18 months and was referred to a speech therapist then. We first had his hearing tested and then went on the wait-list for a speech-path. Some words started to come at about 2 years(ish) and he started seeing a speech path just before his 4th birthday (I love the waiting lists our health care has). The thing I’ve learned the most since going to see the speech path, is that if I would have stopped interrupting my son 3 years ago, we wouldn’t be seeing a speech path twice a month now. It is so hard to do, because I know what he wants, I’ll just grab it and give it to him before he’s even finished asking or if the answer’s no, I’ll stop him from asking and tell him no. And (IMO) my boy being lazy (no physical problems were found), if he doesn’t have to talk, he won’t and now he doesn’t have the same skill set for sound production that other kids his age do. Your son will probably get his hearing tested first and if it’s found to be okay, then you will start seeing a speech path. Where are you from? My son was referred to speech path at 18 months because the wait was (supposed to be) 12 – 18 months, that way he was already on the wait list if there was still a problem in a year. As it was, it was over 2 years before we actually saw one. What to expect? She will first do an assessment to determine what help if any your son requires. My son was diagnosed as having a mild to moderate speech delay. The sessions have helped. She is also working on other areas where he might require improvement. Speech therapy is non-invasive. You have nothing to lose by getting it checked out and it will not hurt your son. And during the sessions? The speech path plays games. My son loves his speech path.
2016-03-29 01:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the last wedding I went to the ring bearer was on the younger side probably around 3. And to make sure he got down the aisle, they had a bridesmaid walk with him. he ended up sitting with someone although I don't recall who. He did his part and then was off doing something else. The bridesmaid didn't have someone to walk with after the ceremony, but you could have your son nearby so that he can walk out with the bridesmaid.
And who cares if its appropriate or not, its your wedding and you can do it however you want.
2007-02-18 10:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you you have to watch how you do whatever it is you decide to do......otherwise you could have your wedding looking pretty tawdry. you don't want it to look like a carnival.
i was going to suggest the same idea as weddrev. i think it is a perfect solution. it brings the family together at the front of the church and having your pastor/reverend/ priest give a special blessing to your new family will be very touching.
as for the three year old flower girl, our daughter's flower girl was 3 and she was absolutely perfect! we rehearsed and rehearsed and by the time the wedding day rolled 'round she had her part down pat.
because you can no longer throw flower petals in church in our end of the world she carried two nosegays and as she went up the aisle she stopped and gave a nosegay to the bride's mom and then to the groom's mom! she accomplished all this without a mishap. once she got to the alter she turned around and let the guests have a good look at her new dress, dropped a curtsey and continued on. it ended up being one the most charming moments of the day!
whatever you choose will make your day special, wishing you the very best of married life!
2007-02-21 05:11:36 · answer #5 · answered by tess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Granted my daughter was older, 4. But here is how I incorporated her into our wedding and perhaps you can actually do them or at least get ideas. I walked down the aisle on the arm of my father and my daughter was also with me. I also had her come up to the alter and stand with me and my husband while we exchanged vows. At the conclusion of the wedding the 3 of us walked out of the church together. During the reception, my husband and my daughter had their own dance, which worked out to be a very special moment for them both. She also cut the cake with us.
I hope some of these might be helpful.
2007-02-19 19:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by gg55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct. Your son is too young to be a part of the wedding party. In fact, you may have problems with the 3 yr. old.
After the vow & ring exchange, you could have someone bring your son to you. Have the officiant say something about the family that stands before the guests. You could also have a baby blessing or dedication where your son is blessed & the two of you vow to be good, loving, supportive parents.
Speak with your officiant. Let him/her help you here.
Somehow I get the feeling that you might want to pass out hankies before the ceremony. :)
Good luck & Congratulations!
2007-02-18 10:16:30 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I was at a wedding recently where they had a young daughter who they wanted to incorporate her into the wedding as well. What they did was decorate a red wagon with wedding ribbon decorations and bells, dressed the daughter in a dress and one of the wedding party members without a date, like a sister or junior bridesmaid rolled the wagon down the isle. It was so cute and everyone loved it.
2007-02-18 10:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually I think it would be more appropriate for your son to accompany his father down the aisle. Dad can hold the baby until the ring exchange, then he can hand your son to his best man and after the ring exchange just before the "I pronounce you" part of the officate you can join together as a family.
2007-02-18 10:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
you could get a cute lil red wagon and decoarte it with robbons and bows and have the 3 year old or someone older 'tow' him down the aisle, mgiht be cute?
My little sister will be 6 months old and I thought of having one of the 8 year old cousins carry her down the aisle in a cute dress or have my mom who is also the MOH carry her then have her sit with her daddy.
You could also just have him dressed comfy and cute for the reception so everyone will see how adorable he is.
I like your idea of the aunt walking with him and the flower girl.
2007-02-18 10:20:32 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a nice idea that you want to include your son, but I really don't think that is practical. I think that if a child is too young to remember the event, he's probably too young to attend. At 18 months of age, his behavior will be unpredictable and it could really disrupt your special day.
I would suggest that you not have him at the wedding, but have him at the reception.
2007-02-22 05:06:51 · answer #11 · answered by Daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋