i cought my gf with another guy at her house one day. weve been together 4 3and a half years. i really want her to get rid of her guy friends, but i know thats not right. she still has guy friends and because of that i cant seem to trust her. what should i do please ur responses are very much so appreciated.
2007-02-18 09:51:46 · 23 answers · asked by lilshawtyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she wasn't doing anything with the guy when you "caught" them, then you should trust her. Always give people the benefit of the doubt, because even if you end up getting hurt, your reputation shines and hers doesn't. Don't worry about it, and don't stalk her or anything. If you have actual proof that she's cheating on you, talk to her about it and break up with her.
2007-02-18 09:57:46 · answer #1 · answered by kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's her that you don't trust, it's the guys she is hanging around. You are a man and you know how they are especially with a woman who is taken. Guys always want girls they can't have right? You should tell her how you feel. You seem uncomfotable with the fact that she has male friends. That's normal because you have been with her for three and a half years and you don't want to ruin what you both have. You're scared of losing her. Communication and trust is everything. If you can't trust her or communicate with how you feel, then your relationship is nothing. Good luck!
2007-02-18 17:59:49 · answer #2 · answered by ~M*a*N*d*Y~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what she did is something she shouldnt have done but think about this, have you guys been having problems? have you guys been fighting, have things bad happened latly. well there could have been many reasons that she cheated on you, like if she can't talkto you then she might have found comfort in another man, but she probly does love you, but i really can't answer this for you cuz you know her and i don't, but there could been tons of reasons, or she might just be a ****, or a *****, but ask your self this, do you think this is the first time this has happened or has there been other times that maby you just don't know about. If you feel deep down inside that you really can'y trust her then break it off before you get hurt again, well i hope this helped you, and im sorri if this made you feel bad. good luck and i wish you the best
2007-02-18 18:03:33 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion,telling your girlfriend to get rid of her guy friends is not right.Mabey you are just jealous that she isn't spending that time with you.And mabey it isn't your girlfriend that you do not trust,but it is the guys she spends this time with.Mabey you should get to know them better so you can learn to trust them or see what they are like.If she spends all her time with them and never invites you to tag along then that is not right and you should ask her streight up what is going on.Has she ever made plans with you and then all of a sudden bailed on you? has she ever made an excuse why she can't see you one day or hgang out with you? how often does she do that? if you have seen her with these guys and it bothers you so much,tell her.
2007-02-18 17:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she should respect your opinion on this and if it bothers you, then she should put you first. Girls can be friends with other guys, but it is an extremely slippery slope. Anyone put in a position to fail, can fail. I try not to be alone with my friends gfs or girls that have boyfriends, because things can and will happen.
She shouldn't need to be alone with some guy at her house no matter what. They can talk on the phone or at a coffee shop.
2007-02-18 17:58:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. of Situational Psychology 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has male friends and is only friends with them, then I don't see the problem. If they are not having sex or flirting and hanging all over each other all the time then i don't see the problem, if she flirts and teases with them then that's different and you shouldn't be in the relationship. If they are just friends there is nothing wrong with that, we are human and it is possible to have friends of the opposite sex. I have always had guy friends and if my boyfriends can't accept that then they can't accept me, it's the way i am. I don't do it to bother them I am just friends with guys and always have been.
2007-02-18 18:02:31 · answer #6 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you have to be honest with yourself and ask did you catch her in an unfaithful act with these guy friends or are you jealous because they are guys and not girls hanging out at her house for you to get turned on! you say you can't trust her because she has guy friends....if thats really the case you need to end it.....females have a right to have male friends just like males have a right to have female friends......not all people cheat on their mates....and most of the time the one that accuses is the cheater themself!
2007-02-18 18:00:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kickin' Back 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and see if you two can come to some type of agreement, also try joining them some time that way you can judge for your self, if somethings wrong. Because if you don't have trust between you 2 you have lost already.
2007-02-18 18:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by Nice isn't it 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were they doing anything so wrong?You probably have female friends too. Does she trust you? You need to lighten up or you might lose her. Trust is very important in a relationship.If you have reason not to trust her, then don't stay with her. If not , then chill out.
2007-02-18 17:59:57 · answer #9 · answered by doglady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you can not trust her, then you don't need to be dating anymore. You have insecrities and are taking them out on your girlfriend, who'm I'm sure you love and adore. If yuo can't go on without feeling jealousy when she talks to a male friend, then you don't need to be with her anymore.
I'm sure you would be highly frustrated if she did the same to you.
I know its not what you want to hear, but sometimes you don't always get answers you want...
2007-02-18 17:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Pandora 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋