okay...so heres the deal
im a small girl.....im a 34 or 36 b cup....i have a nice butt...but its not huge or n e thing....im only like 5'2....my boyfriend is 6'5....only 160 pounds......i found out that he likes girls with huge boobs and huge butt.....if u go on bangbros.com.....he looks up assparade and huge ****.......i look nothing like these girls.....and it makes me feel really inscure ...i dont know what to do bcuz i dont think hes attracted to me....now i feel the need to go and natrual breast enhancement...to make him more attracted to me....i feel ike im acting really stupid....from being inscure with my body...i do like my body but since i know what hes into...i dont feel like im good enough....im sad all the time bcuz of this reason what am i supose to do
2007-02-18 09:48:06 · 19 answers · asked by lisa m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That may be just a fantasy of his....not the kind of girl he wants to marry or be with.
He wouldnt be with you if he wasn't attracted to you....
2007-02-18 09:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont let him screw with your self image! Without having seen your body I can tell you that: ANY BF THAT DOESNT MAKE YOU FEEL THE BEST POSSIBLE WAY ABOUT YOUR BODY IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME!!! I only say best possible, because so many girls have a bad self image. But noone should feel worse because of their boyfriend ... on the contrary! And understand that there are a boy out there who will make you feel good/better about your body!
Dont EVER change your body, unless you want to do it for your own sake. If you know that it is for someone else, or if you are in doubt if it is, then dont do it! Use a smaller portion of your money to take a self-image course or similar. What is wrong here is not your cup, butt or anything.
If this "self-critique" is based on anything than your own imagination, then you have to move on. Because any bf that lets something physical get in the way of happiness is not worth your time...
And last thing... these sites that you mention, have more than the physical image of women as their problem. Most of them are also demeaning stupid and abusive to women. If he really are into these sites, I think you have other concerns with this boy as well!!!
2007-02-18 18:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by the_02r 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are jumping to your own conclusions and we forget people think differently than one. He may be watching that but that doesn't mean he's not attracted to you. If he weren't attracted to you he wouldn't be with you. You could ask him. You also shouldn't do things to please someone else, I used to do that and it's not right, you should please you. You'll regret it. Don't be afraid of what he or anyone thinks, they won't get mad and if they did so what? Listen to you, your instincts. What if he's not with you for the long run and here you did something drastic to your body and he's gone?! I know it's easier said than done, I've been there but the insecurity goes away when you realize it's ok to be you. I don't have to be like that girl or that other person. You are just as ok as they are. I hope you don't make this HUGE mistake! Believe in yourself. You are worth as much as anyone else, you don't need to go pleasing anyone.
By the way, I'm bigger and I would love to be your size!
2007-02-18 18:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a beautiful girl to me. I am 5'0" and a 38D. I have the problem with guys not looking me in the eyes. Love your body and others will be attracted to your confidence. I would not approach your boyfriend about your fears because he will deny looking at any other woman. He is with you and loves you. Guys will always look just as long as they don't touch. And if this guy is not the one there are plenty of men out there that will love you and everything that comes with it. I say flaunt your beautiful body and be proud of the good person you are.
2007-02-18 17:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by shorthappyfunny 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you have a fine body. If this guy doesn't appreciate it, I'm sure plenty of guys will. However, how did you find out what he seems to prefer? If he outright told you, you don't need to put up with that.
But if he hasn't said it and you just heard it or only know from his porn viewing history, don't worry about it. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't find you attractive. I mean, I prefer blonds, but I've been plenty happy with brunettes and redheads. Just because he has a preference doesn't mean you're not good enough
2007-02-18 17:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by Nick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are beautiful, no matter what. You don't need breast enhancemants to make you feel preety.
If this guy is only looking for girls with good looks, then he isn't worth your time. In fact, he's practically CHEATING on you for looking up these girls. (unless they are friends.)
Trust me , you deserve better. There is a guy out there somewhere who likes girls for personality, not good looks.
Btw, you sound like you are very preety. Don't let anyone tell you that you aren't.
2007-02-18 17:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Carly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are TOTALLY worth ALL the love and happiness your heart desires.
Consider your statement "im sad all the time"
If ANYONE makes you feel sad or insecure or stupid or anything else that does NOT make you feel good, they are basically 'toxic' to you. Healthy relationships fulfill both partners with unconditional love and support, building each other up to be the very best one can be. Don't YOU believe you deserve better?
2007-02-18 19:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Tess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have small boobs and butt too, but I love my body. If you are happy with your body then maybe you should keep it and lose the boyfriend. You have no reason to feel insecure about yourself. You sound like a very beautiful girl, and you deserve to be with someone who appreciates your beauty.
2007-02-18 17:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by Jessie Jo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should break up with him because you don't have to change......If he doesn't like you the way you are well dump him.And stay the same way you are.Let him suffer.If he is like that...well you have to let him go.You shoudn't change because of him.You stay the way you are and maybe get anther cute boy that loves you the way you are.Well you should not change girl....you will get problems with your friends and family.He is only a boy....get another man with good shape and good bahavier and doesn't have other.I think he is a little fat.And you will like yourself the way you are.
2007-02-18 18:04:15 · answer #9 · answered by RICARDO E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's making you feel this way.. leave the guy. If you don't feel special enough there is now reason why you can't get on with your life. There is someone better for you out there. I'm sure of it. And whoever he is, he will be happy with your apperance and you will feel more secure.
2007-02-18 17:55:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't freak because he looks at other shaped women, it does not mean he does not like the way you look. Sit down and tell him your feeling insecure and see what he says. You should be more than just a body shape to him. Just because he is browsing a menu does not mean he wants a different meal. Communicate before you break up, at least you know you tried before you left.
2007-02-18 17:54:07 · answer #11 · answered by ONLY 1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋