I would perfer to wear a color which suits me tea length, rather than to the floor. What do you think? This is a big church wedding w/ 200 guests. What to do?
2007-02-18 09:43:10 · 14 answers · asked by annab 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it would be fine if you can pick the dress to let the bride pick the color. You have to look at this is an expression of honor to you. You're being asked to wear the same colors as the mothers. She is telling you that you're not a "step" mom. That you're accepted as one of her moms.
2007-02-18 09:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by penhead72 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if it's appropriate or not, it's what the bride wants. My sis in law wanted the mothers in white at her wedding, she literally had a black and white wedding...women in white, men in black. My mom hated it, because she's a larger woman, and white just made her look even larger than she is.
You might see if the bride would be willing to compromise on this one though, wear a floor length dress, but ask her if you can pick a coordinating color, or even a different shade of the color she's chosen. All with her approval, of course.
Remember, this is her wedding, hopefully her only wedding, and does it really matter what you wear, as long as she's happy? I'm sure you love your step daughter very much, so maybe you can just deal with it this once, knowing it's making her happy? Good luck!
2007-02-18 10:42:54 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never seen the mothers wearing the same color! Traditionally, the bride's mother gets first choice as to color. The other mother/s choose a color that will not clash with it.
I think all three mothers wearing the same color would look rather ridiculous! Mothers should not look like triplets!
Usually, the mothers choose a dress that will look good on them and not out-shine the bride.
2007-02-18 22:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bride is being somewhat unreasonable. The 3 moms should wear colors that coordinate but look good on the individual. Probably you should wear a floor length gown if the other 2 moms are, especially if it's a formal church wedding.
2007-02-18 11:02:15 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yikes is an understatement. You're the stepmom, right? Do you and the ex get along? Yikes....what to do...it is her wedding day and she should get to have it her way...but on the other hand what if it causes hostility between the "moms"?
Maybe you could just go to her privately and tell her you are okay with the same dress choice but you'd like to know how the other mom's feel about it. That way if there is trouble brewing, you could stay clear.
YIKES!
2007-02-18 12:31:17 · answer #5 · answered by THP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
generally, the bride would set a few guildlines: color, length, etc - that are important to her, and then let you pick. In some cases,. the bride may want to help pick the dress. Either way - it is up to the bride and yes, it is appropriate for the mothers to all wear the same color.
2007-02-18 16:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/ catlover...it's going to look a tad..um..odd. What is the brides reasoning for this? I think sometimes brides get a little control-happy when it comes to what people wear...I mean, they get to choose their own gown obviously, then the bridesmaids, usually the tuxes as well..is this not enough? Soon they will be dictating what the guests must wear! I think the guests are going to look on it as very weird that you are all matching. I would gently try to talk her out of it.
2007-02-19 14:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by MelB 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just a request. I am sure she is just asking for the purpose of photos, she probably just wants you included in the professional photos and she wants it to look uniform. I would just buy the suit in the style and length of personal choice and make sure it is the color the bride requested. Make sure you smile pretty in the pics, good luck!
2007-02-18 10:30:43 · answer #8 · answered by ladyj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. i might think of that for a coastline wedding ceremony, the main suitable colorations may be easy colorations (easy blue, easy pink, and so on.) or muted colorations. rather no longer something low shrink or tight! it is the bride's day, and no person, quite a step-mom, ought to be donning revealing stuff.
2016-12-18 06:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the same color wouldbe ok but just not the same dress the bride should give you the color and let you pick the dress.
2007-02-18 09:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋