Hey you guys please help me out here. I was molested about 4 years ago by my cousin. I was 12 years old at the time and it was New years eve. I think my cousin was so drunk he won't even remember he molested me. He is 26 and was 22 at the time he did it. He also has a 5 year old daughter and is getting married soon. what i don't want to happen is me actually have the guts to tell someone and have him not remember he even did it and have everyone think i'm a liar. I also don't want to ruin my families realtionship( we area close family and have lots of fun) That would suck soooo bad. So if you have any advice please tell me.
2007-02-18 09:23:48 · 4 answers · asked by jenna w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know telling would be hard, but even if he does not remember there is always the chance he will get drunk again and do it to another child. Stopping the cycle is a tough thing to do but it is important that it be done. Your family will all take it different ways but in the end you being brave and letting him know his actions is the best thing. There is free counseling out there, you should go and they can help you make the right choices for you. I am a survivor too.
2007-02-18 09:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by ONLY 1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to press charges or just try to heal? Pressing charges will involve the whole family. I am not saying this is right but you voiced concerns over this. Also, he has a daughter....
I was molested by my step father for a couple of years. I felt I had no one to talk to so I was confiding in a friend at school. My step father found one of the notes, went to my mom and my mother accused me of making it up to break up her marriage. She finally left him but it left a big wedge in the relationship between my mother and myself.
I would definitely you seek counseling for yourself if you have not already done this. Perhaps a counselor can help you decide whether or not to pursue this legally.
2007-02-18 09:33:16 · answer #2 · answered by pammiepoo_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was molested as well and i decided to shut dat part out of me however i didnt kno my body and my feelings still reacted to certain situations like wen a boy try touchin me or why i cried myself to sleep fer 5 years i developed depression and was lockd up in a mental hospital now im takin medication and i have stopped self-mutilating eventually i told ppl wa happen and wa happens is it gets reported a social worker will come talk to u try to find as much detail as possible and if livin in state, he could possibly get arrested since its against the law if you feel like its affecting you in anyway and i dont mean just thinkin about it and feeling down but just feeling down fer no reason then you need to talk to someone ur mom perhaps maybe she can get you a therapist like me i take therapy twise a week but if you say anything to therapist she will reported ppl usually make a big deal out of this things so try talkn to your mother she loves you and she wants the best for you only she can help you baby
good luck and seek help b4 you drown yourself becuz for me it was too late
2007-02-19 05:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't spare the family's feelings i did that for many of years and lived to regret it, tell the authorities, get it out in the open, something has to be done, he probably remembers just acts like he don't people blame lots of things on alcohol and think its OK cause they are drunk, please please tell someone
2007-02-18 09:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by fallen_angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋