to me this is just a waste of money but...we are told we need to do this...anyway my question is..this dinner...is it like a mini wedding reception?? what is expected at the rehearsal dinner?? just food and drinks?? do we give favors to the guests??? there will be about 22 people there..
2007-02-18 09:08:14 · 11 answers · asked by diane b 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
let me clarify by what i mean by waste of money..by no means am i cheap..my husband and i gave them their honeymoon to aruba..!!! it just seems like the money for the dinner could be well spent on something else..thats all i meant by waste of money..as far as not being blood you are right i'm not but my love for him runs true and blood doesnt matter..i've been there for him through thick and thin..!!!! i just dont undterstand the concecpt of having a rehearsal dinner thats all
2007-02-18 09:24:45 · update #1
The purpose of a rehearsal dinner is for the couple to say thank you to those who have been there with them, whether it was during the planning process, life, or anything having to do with them as a couple. It is their opportunity to hand out gifts to everyone and relax with their closest family and friends before their wedding ... everything goes so fast that the rehearsal dinner gives them the chance to see and talk with everyone. The reception is going to be crowded with family and friends who are going to demand their time and they might not have quality time that night, so the rehearsal allows for that quality time.
The guests don't need favors from you or anything ... just food and drink. The couple should be providing gifts for everyone.
2007-02-19 05:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have this attitude? Is this putting a financial burden on you? You don't have to host a rehearsal dinner if you don't want to.
At a rehearsal dinner, all of the wedding party & their spouses are invited. Children attendants & their parents, any out-of-town guests and any other close family & friends you want there. And sometimes the clergy with their spouse.
This is a party to get better acquainted with family, relax before the Big Day. There are a few toasts made & the couple usually give their attendants their gifts at this time. Other than that, no gifts or favors are exchanged.
Keep alcohol intake to a minimum.
2007-02-18 17:16:22 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is a time to recognize and appreciate what the bridal party has done for the bride and groom, it's a good time for the bride and groom to talk to nearest and dearest when they may not have a lot of time to do so at the wedding, it's a time to sort of relax, catch your breath, for the bride and groom to say thank you, for a few toasts, if desired.
It's really just a meal together, usually for the bride and groom, their parents, and grandparents, the bridal party (and their dates if they're invited to the wedding.) No favors are necessary, and the event doesn't have to be fancy at all. I've been to some that are held in fancy restaurants, and others that have been backyard barbecues.
2007-02-18 20:16:43 · answer #3 · answered by Erika G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is just one last chance to relax before the wedding and all of its usual chaos.
You can keep it very simple; you do not need to go all out by any means.
Ours was at a casual restaurant where everyone had a choice of 2 entrees, and there was no liquor served except for carafes of wine. This can keep a cap on the cost.
You do not need to give favors, gifts, or even have dessert.
2007-02-18 18:56:30 · answer #4 · answered by Karen? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is suppose to be only for those in the wedding, the couples' parents, & the couples' children. No favors are necessary. It's not as extravagant as a wedding reception, it doesn't need to be anything fancy. You just provide food & drinks (you could maybe meet at a resturant - make sure you reserve it). You don't need to pay for alcoholic beverages either, you can let people (& the waiter/waitress) know that them kind of drinks will be at their own expense.
2007-02-18 17:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by tanner 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rehearsal dinner is informal, it takes place right after the wedding party gets back from the church rehearsal. It does not need to be in a restaurant. You do not give out favors, it is usually when the bride and groom give out their gifts to their bridesmaids/groomsmen/parents. We had a simple cookout at his parents house, and everyone had a great time.
2007-02-18 20:43:45 · answer #6 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe to YOU it's a waste of money, but then you're not related by blood to the groom...and if you feel that it's a waste of money then maybe YOU should foot the bill for the wedding since the bride's parents will have to pay for all of it and frankly I feel that quite often is a waste of money...at any rate the rehersal dinner is hosted by the groom's parents as a THANK YOU to the Bride's parents for picking up the tab for the wedding and reception...again this goes back to your "I think it's a waste of money" idea. It is also where the immediate familes of both bride and groom can meet and greet and get to know a little more about one another, it is also usualy the time when the bride and groom give their wedding party their gifts. But since YOU feel it is a waste of money why don't YOU back out and let your spouse handle it all since as I said...you're not even related to the groom by blood only by marriage.
2007-02-18 17:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The rehearsal dinner is just a meal after the rehearsal for the wedding party and immediate family.
There's no need for favors or any other trappings. Just a nice meal, usually at a restaurant (although you could do it at home).
2007-02-18 17:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Terri J 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The rehearsal dinner is supposed to be an intimate occasion for the bride and groom to show thanks to parents and attendants....favors are not required as the bride and groom usually gifts gifts to thier attendants and parents at this time. Basically a stress reducing good time...dinner and maybe drink...personally we are having a picnic at the park with volleyball and other games...just something fun to lett stress out!!!!
2007-02-18 17:13:39 · answer #9 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is just dinner with friends, family and the wedding party. You do not need to give favors to the guests, however gifts are usually given to the bride and groom and from the bride and groom.
2007-02-18 17:12:20 · answer #10 · answered by missyhobeeb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋