How much eye contact is too much eye contact?

Question

What if I'm trying to get a girl to notice me, is it okay to stare at her until she looks my way?
I keep reading about how you need to establish eye contact with a girl. I never catch anyone looking at me, so I very rarely have an opportunity to have eye contact. And if I do, I always look away first because I am shy. I can only think of one time I stared at a girl as i was walking past her, and it seemed like i was looking at her too long. But she gave me a big smile as she walked by, so I guess I was okay?

Bottom line, how much is too much eye contact? Please help a guy who constantly struggles with the ladies!!

Answer 1

alrighty, look at her untill she notices you looking! when she sees you, smile at her. look away at what ever you may be doing for like 30 seconds, then look back at her (shes probably looking at you from the corner of her eye to see if your looking again) then finally look back and wave. if she waves back. aproach her, and say hi!

Answer 2

i would have to say(being a girl and all) that staring like that (in my mind) is a form of flattery, but that's just me..anyways you have to make sure that the girl your trying to make eye contact with , doesn't think your obsessed and you can most likely keep that from happening by not staring at her every waking moment just every once in a while glance over for a second or so...and if it seems that she might be shifting her glance over to where you are, look at her at that moment and you will Shirley make eye contact..hopefully that girl thinks like me and thinks its sweet and not an obsession like some do.....and this is coming from a girl that hasn't had much luck with the guys(so i know how ya feel, im shy just like you..)anyways..Good Luck! ( D

Answer 3

Eye contact is a way of confirming acknowledgement. Staring someone down until they feel the need to look way is definitely NOT a positive move. Look her in the eye, smile and continue on.

Answer 4

You can glance at her. Pay attention to her. If she catches you looking at her, smile, don't keep an intense face. And you should probably look away a few seconds after she catches you. If other people are watching you stare, thats too much. And dont like, grin as you're staring, that may seem like you're laughing at her.

Good luck, dont be creepy. :D

Answer 5

I think that fleeting eye contact that is nice quickly turns into that psychotic stare where girls start to worry that they are going to end up in a dumpster. You have to move in fast after the point where you realise she's noticed you or you just end up spinning your wheels.
After you bottle out, jsut take a deep breath and go over and say "Hi, I was going to come and talk to you then, but then I crapped out..."

Answer 6

Just long enough so she catches your eye, then give her a smile and look away... if you keep staring at her she might think you're a bit strange. Good luck.

Answer 7

You can make eye contact but dont just stare, you have to smile and nod or something before you get slapped with a restraining order

Answer 8

eye contact is not so much a good thing.
i actaully get kinda freaked out andd uncomfortable when guys stare, i pourposely dont look if i know they are staring and i can feel there eyes on me and i hate it it.

the better thing to do is go and interduce urself or ask her for the time and give her a beautiful smile and thanks so much and then maybe tell her that her watch is really pretty or that she is really pretty and ask what her name is and start a convo

Answer 9

3-5 seconds = good
6+ seconds= creepy

Getting someone to look at you is tricky. Some people take the "loud" approach, while others take the more subtle approach.
The loud approach is more likely going to get you noticed because it is so annoying. Don't do it.
The more subtle approach is just to walk by (in that person's plain sight) and when they look at you, smile.

Good luck.

Answer 10

you can never have enough eye contact. especially when dealing with girls. you will find later in life that eye contact is one of the keys to success in business. people that avoid eye contact tend not to be trustworthy. go ahead stare at her if you really like her. just make sure that your eyes twinkle when you do. try to tell her how cute she is just with your eyes. she will melt.
good luck.

Answer 11

You ain't the only one. I do receive those so called "eye contacts" from girls but they never seem interested in me. For God's sake, it will be so helpful if these girls would just come to us and tell us if they are interested or not. Enough with these games.