I'm going to a wedding at the end of May. I haven't gotten my official invite, but I'm good friends with the couple and they've told me I'm invited. How early should I try and get a date? There's a guy I know I want to go with...should I go ahead and ask or wait until I get the invite?
2007-02-18 09:00:22 · 8 answers · asked by Squeegy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I already know I can bring a guest. The bride to be actually suggested that I go ahead and start working on him...haha But she said she's going to request the names of guests with the RSVPs since it's apparently more polite now to have the guest's actual name instead of just me and guest for example.
2007-02-18 13:57:06 · update #1
The end of May is a really long time away guys. I mean if you are just starting to date this guy--thats over 3 months away. I've had a lot of new relationships not last 3 months. Not to mention to a guy, being invited to a wedding is a big deal. I mean it's like after a few dates saying "what are your thoughts on marriage"--his eyes are going to get HUGE.
Plus you don't even know that you are going to still be together 3 months down the road. It's not his friends, he would just be going as your guest. If I were you, I'd wait.
Everyone else says go ahead and ask now but whats the point? He doesnt have to prepare for it. Unless it's a destination wedding in which he would need to prepare to fly to Hawaii or something. If it's local, which I assume it is, and they aren't his friends, or he would be getting his own invite, it just looks like you are rushing him into making a statement on his committment to you. Thats like asking him to go on a trip "over the summer" with you. It's a lil too far in the future and a lil too new in the relationship to start calling everything "our plans".
I'd say take this relationship slow and go on a few more dates. In May, if things are still going good then ask him. But if you are hoping for a few more dates I wouldn't bring up marriage or wedding just yet.
2007-02-22 05:29:24 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're certain that you're getting an invite, then go ahead and ask the guy to with you. Usually invites don't get sent out until 6-8 weeks before the wedding date, so you aren't going to get it for a while still. If you think it is going to take you a while to get this guy to agree, then start now. Good luck and have fun!!!!
2007-02-19 13:13:22 · answer #2 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait until you get the invitation. the couple may not want you to bring a guest, especially since it sounds like they don't know him. they might have a set number of people who are friends and family that they are inviting so they may prefer single guests don't bring a long another guest. just wait until you get the invitation.
2007-02-18 20:11:49 · answer #3 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you can bring a guest. they may not have the money for everyone to bring guests. but if you can then just wait a bit till the invite comes, what if you change your mind? but you can give the guy a headsup if you're sure
2007-02-18 19:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, isn't a wedding about marriage of two people that you care about? It's a special and important day in their lives. Why would they want to entertain a stranger on such a day? I'd suggest you forget about bringing a date, and just go yourself and be supportive of your friends.
2007-02-22 12:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should tell him that you are going to a wedding in may and if he would like to be your date to this event. But if it is your first date are you sure you want to take him to a wedding?
2007-02-18 18:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a heads up. If he wants to go, he'll have time to clear his schedule.
2007-02-18 17:10:00 · answer #7 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just mention it to him and ask if he wants to go but make sure your going
2007-02-18 17:10:33 · answer #8 · answered by â?¥ ~soccer luver~ â?¥ aka Zoe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋