I have been dating hime for 3 years I am 29 and he is 45. I have never been married, and would like to some day. he was married for 20 years and says he will never get married again. I'm not sure if I will ever be happy not getting married I would like to change his mind. Do you thing he will?
2007-02-18 08:59:08 · 19 answers · asked by Nikki 6 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I bet he is a little scared to go through it all again. I bet he is worried that it might not work out again. Divorces are very expensive.
2007-02-18 09:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you are a beautiful and all around great girl. I'm sure many guys would love to be with u. But the fact is that if someone doesn't want to get married, u can't chage their minds. U may be able to convince him to marry u but u can't change his mind about marriage. It would be sort of a distressing situation that prompts him to do it. U have to ask yourself are u so desperate to get married that u want your bf to marry u even if he doesn't want to or do u want him to do so because he loves u and wants to spend the rest of his life with u? Hopefully its the second choice. Some people just don't see a reason to get married and I guess they have the right, What does Marriage really give u if u've already been with someone for years and years? They would say it gives u nothing. Considering that he has already been married he already has a prejudice against it because he is assuming that his next marriage would also be like the one that he obviously didn't like because i assume that it ended in divorce. After talking to him about it (but not trying to force him into it) if he still feel the same way then u have to ask can u live your life without being married? if not then it's time to go. u have a right to be happy in marriage just like he has the right to be happy without marriage.
2007-02-18 09:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I read your subject line I thought "give it time, he may change his mind" but when I saw his age then I retracted that. It's not that he cannot change his mind but at 45 he is unlikely to...and it also says he doesn't have a lot of confidence in the longevity of his relationship with you (since you are 16 yrs younger).
If marriage is something that you must have, then I would advise you to look elsewhere...after 3 yrs he knows you well enough to know if he wants to marry you or not...that's not to say he may not be more than happy to have a long term relationship with you, but if the legal aspect is what you desire, look elsewhere...
2007-02-18 09:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 34 and he was 45, we started dating and he told me he will never get married again. He was married for 20 years too. Well almost 6 years later now and we are not married and he still tells me he will never get married again! So to put it bluntly, you will never get married to this man!~
2007-02-18 09:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has been married before then I would say he might not want to remarry. But if he hasn't been married before, I wouldn't pressure him into it. It will just drive him away. If you know it wasn't meant to be for the two of you and you have a feeling it's not gonna work, I would suggest you start dating other people.
2016-03-29 01:45:58 · answer #5 · answered by Teresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah what an age difference. To be honest no i dont think he will. 45??? thats an older age and most people at that age probably wont want to get married again. I could see if he was in his late 20's or 30's
2007-02-18 09:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by TWiSTED|♥|ELEGANCE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a choice, either you stay with this man in the relationship as it is or you move on and look for someone who shares your need of marriage. If he doesn't want to get married you can't change his mind. He gets to have a say in the way HIS life goes. You don't get to dictate that to him.
2007-02-18 09:02:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow um He might of had a really bad experance with his first marriage. He's probably scared to go through that again. But if you love this man give him time.and maybe he will pop the question. Just have faith. All marriage is a ceremony, And if you guys have been together and been through ups and downs then in your hearts and souls you guys are married. Just give him time.
2007-02-18 09:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Christie C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he loved you, he would marry you. This doesn't sound like a good relationship to be in. However, if you've only been together for a little hilwe, then give it time. He may change his mind, you never know
LB
2007-02-18 09:02:38 · answer #9 · answered by Love Bites 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think he will change his mind I felt the same way he does. It might take a while but I think he will want to get married again, it might take a while.
2007-02-18 09:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Male_42_us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your idea of marriage sounds fine, he doesn't want to go through it again because he might feel that it's binding him to much 20 years sounds alot to get tired of as well, but why get married if you are already happy with him? and no I don't think he will change his mind.
2007-02-18 09:04:09 · answer #11 · answered by piscess86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋